Life is too short. Get a dicorce. Marriage brings rhe wordt in us

If he was able to communicate with your Mom, it seems like the problem is not his ability to communicate, but how comfortable he feels expressing himself to you. If you find that you're the one starting all the arguments, then you have your answer.

You guys should read a book by John Gottman. Sounds like he's getting flooded and can't handle the level of emotion present. There are things you can do such as how you start the conversation and things he can do like cool off for 20 mins before continuing the convo that can help you guys have a productive conversation.

If he needs strength to deal with you, perhaps that speaks volumes about YOUR communication habits. You really should speak to a therapist, both with and without him. I suspect you browbeat him regularly.

It doesn't sound like you are a great communicator either. Right from the start of the FML you are blaming him for all the problems. It stands to reason that you take the same position in your arguments with your husband. I can imagine that you use a lot of "you statements". Just think back to your conversations with him. How many times have you said "You don't do this" or "you don't do that". "You statements" are inherently aggressive. They put the other person on the defense, and that isn't conducive to productive communication. Also, you have mentioned several times that you have hinted at counseling. Clearly you don't understand anything about how men think, because hints are completely ineffectual when communicating with a man. If you want him to know what you are thinking then you are going to have to use your words. That is how men communicate.

OP I get that marriage is hard. Every relationship has it's ups and downs. If he used to be very good at communicating and he stopped suddenly, then that is a big problem. But before you start blaming him, look at what may have started it. Was there a big change in your life, such as a death or a fight with a close friend or relative, a change in his work place, like a demotion or a new boss? Stress at work can be very damaging at home, so can major life changes. I agree with an above comment that your husband may be depressed or even may have low T. I suggest that you ask your husband to go to his doctor to rule out depression or low T. And if it is not a health issue, perhaps you just need to back off for a while. Just tell him that if he doesn't want to talk you won't force him and that he is ready that you'll be there to listen when he is ready. Maybe you could also encourage him to find another outlet other than x-box, he could just feel stuck in a rut. Ask his friends for advice too, not in a prying way, but ask if they've noticed a change in his behavior and if you should be worried. And above all I would get advice from a marriage counselor. Even if your husband doesn't go they can be a big help in communication, and maybe your husband will want to go, tell him that he can go by himself until he is ready to voice his problems with you. Your husband might be scared of his feeling, especially if this is his first serious relationship, and he is just overwhelmed. But at the same time OP you're not entirely blameless, something must have happened and needs to be addressed. Maybe the two of you need to do activities together, something simple where you're just together without talking like going for a walk around the block or hiking, go to a movie something like that. Or it may be that you're smothering him, and you two just need to spend a few hour a week doing your own thing. Again a marriage counselor can help with determining the source of the block. I wish you and your husband the best of luck, and do try not to put a whole lot of pressure on your husband, and don't hold onto feelings of resentment.

Sounds like you need to go to counseling to help him communicate effectively and to help you back away and listen. Make an appointment now.

Thankyou for the advice everyone. I read all the comments. The positive and negative. We both have things to work on. Councelling is the best answer. I just want whats best for us and our little one. Marriage is like a job and I'm willing to work for it.

As harsh as that seems, it sounds like he as previously tried to communicate his feelings to you before and had no luck. I've been in that situation, eventually I had to talk to someone else about it. I couldn't keep it all bottled up, its not healthy. Instead of being so angry about him talking to someone else about your relationship problems, why don't you talk to him? It might just save your relationship. Of course I don't know the entire context of your relationship, but it's just a thought.

He should learn how to handle fights.