By Iloverainbows10 - 18/12/2013 16:44 - United States - Brunswick

Today, my husband and I were arguing about him not communicating anymore. Instead of talking to me about it, he messages my mom to say, "I'm not mentally strong enough to handle her anymore." FML
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Iloverainbows10 1

He wasnt always like this. Used to listen and talk. Now hands are just being thrown up in the air. Says he doesnt know how to handle fights.

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Welshite 39

It sounds like you two need help; maybe in the form of a therapist.

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emirie 21

My fiancé would do almost the same thing to me. Couples therapy helped a lot.

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Mackay92 14

Well if that's what he sent to you're mom maybe you're nagging him too much

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etoilenuit 15

That's no fun, but maybe it's because instead of talking to him, you say you were arguing about his communication problems. Arguing is the worst way to communicate and I'm willing to bet that means your aren't the best communicator either.. Try sitting down and asking him why it's become so hard for BOTH of you. Hope you work everything out. If you really want things to then they will so don't give up!

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thecrazymancan 17

This shows the classic signs of a marriage that will end in divorce. :( Sorry OP.

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Epikouros 31

Changing a husband works just like raising a child or training an animal: you have to ignore bad behavior and reward good behavior. Try doing something together that he likes. I understand that you're frustrated, but arguing and nagging is never going to help.

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jhs578650 9

@98 Love, in it's basest form, is really just acceptance. If you feel the need to change your spouse, then you don't really accept him, and therefore you don't really love him. Trying to change your spouse will make him feel unloved and/or disrespected.

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lunamac 11

My ex husband did the same thing except I was pregnant an living 19hrs away from home with him. He called my mom to come get me and take me back with her bc he couldn't handle the emotions I had.

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Korra_fml 23

OP: try having him keep a journal. one that's for you to read. this way, he can get his feelings out, and you dont have to be stuck in the dark. for some people, actually talking to the person can be hard, but writing it out can be theraputic. let him go sit in the bedroom or wherever he's comfortable and journal away his feelings. take that opportunity to calm yourself down. then, when everything's all calm he can slip you the journal to read at your leisure. not to mention, when things are verbalized (especially in an angry environment), the actual phrasing and whatnot can sometimes get twisted on the receiving end, or somehow manage to be forgotten. if you have a written copy to read, you can make sure you have every last word, and go over it a couple of times if you need to for it to sink in. hope you manage to find something that works for you both.

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