What a jerk!! And the "cute colleague" is a jerk too. She more than likely knew he was married and continued on with this dirty little affair. Whatever path you take OP, I hope everything works out for you and you do what makes YOU happy. Sorry you have to deal with this!

Guess u can say u know him well. But hopefully now hes just somebody that you used to know. Feel sry op!

I met my boyfriend while I was married. My (now ex) husband was abusive and an adulterer. I kissed my boyfriend the first night I met him, but didn't do anything else because it didn't seem right to have sex with someone while I was still married to someone else. When my husband came home a few days later, I told him that I'd met someone else and that I was leaving him, because my new boyfriend had finally helped me find that strength and courage I needed to leave my husband. But it wasn't my worthless husband I was trying to be fair to, but the new man in my life. My husband didn't care about me, so I didn't care about him. It wasn't fair to ask my new love to be "the other man" while I stayed married to an asshole. When I told my husband I was leaving, he imprisoned me in my own home, and I was lucky to get out if that situation. I can understand why someone would have an affair in an abusive relationship, because they get the affection they need in the affair, but are too afraid to leave the abusive relationship because they fear the person will hurt or kill them.

Although, the situation I just described doesn't seem to apply here, so I have to say that OP's husband sucks and should die.

You mean ex husband right?!

well it's okay. when someone leaves, it only means something greater is coming your way. :)

so it sounds like you knew she was an issue before, or at least had doubts? it doesn't sound like just a coincidence. I don't condone cheating, but maybe there was something you guys should have been trying to work out.

I would really hate to be involved in that kind of shit. No doubt he will expect you to stick around while he has a kid with her, complains about the demands she makes, her calling him 90 times a day and then him having sex with her on the sly while hes seeing the kid. Once a cheat, always a cheat, you deserve better OP!

umm first of all why was that the thing that came to your mind as a joke? wouldnt you want it to be something esle like he wrecked the car instead of cheating. sorry to hear your husband is a douche hopefully you can move on with life with someone esle.

I wonder at how you managed to guess that, maybe subconsciously you had suspicions he was cheating on you with her? FYL anyway, cheating is never acceptable whatever the circumstances are. If someone is unhappy in their relationship, they should try to work things out. If it still fails, well they should walk away, instead of banging other people behind their partner's back. I hope you'll find someone more worthy of your trust.