Do you know for a fact that her husband cheated on his ex wife with her? If you don't, then don't make such accusations. The young girl needs to be talked to about this by her father and if that doesn't work, get her some help.

Wow. Uncalled for. I met her dad when she was 9. She was fine with me when I was just his girlfriend. Her mom and dad split up when she was 2. So maybe you shouldn't assume such things. You ma'am are ridiculous.

Oh and PS: mom and dad were never married. She just got knocked up for a child support check.

Erm...your screenname says that you have no confirmed FMLs, and the location of the FML says Virginia, while your page says Jersey. I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt though; is this really your FML?

First off, welcome to FML. Second, you should use the reply button if you want to reply to someone directly, instead of posting a whole separate comment. I tell you this for your own good.. at some point someone will rip you a new one if you continue doing it.

Wtf no kid should have a say in a parents life. So basically if this ten year old said no I don't you to have a baby they shouldn't? Your one of THOSE people.

We bent over backwards to make her comfortable. However, I'm not letting her have a say in my baby making. I'm 23 years older than her so she needs to be more respectful.

Well, aren't you just a spoiled, pretentious little shit? The parents have 100% say when it comes to having another child, step-parents or biological. That's just the way it works.

Ok so just because you're a brat that hates your step-parent doesn't give you the right to make decisions in their lives, especially not ones as important as this. I have a step-mother who I can't stand but I still love my younger sister just the same. Ten year old kids don't have the capacity to correctly make decisions like that and I know that if you were wanting to have a baby with someone, you wouldn't want some little kid trying to shit in corn flakes. What OP needs to do in this case is work with her husband, and if the kid is violent enough, a therapist, to inform her about the fun parts of having a younger sibling. Maybe she just needs time to come around to the idea. If she still hates her step-mom and new half-sibling then maybe she needs some professional help.

Really? So because OP didn't consult with her step-daughter, it's okay for the step-daughter to threaten to push her down the stairs? 61, you seem to have serious moral issues. I think that girl needs some serious help, if she thinks either the behavior or the threat is okay.

If anything, you could've "asked" (more like told) but only as a kind gesture that has no meaning and the resulting reaction would have nothing to do with your decision anyway. Then you put that little brat straight where she belongs. ...I seriously hate kids sometimes. >.> Sorry OP. You'll be fine. Congrats on your pregnancy by the way! :)

I don't think it's normal to discuss your sex life / baby planning with your children... /awkward!

She needs to be in therapy at the very least. She has WAY TOO MANY "Daddy issues" at that age.

I understand where you are coming from but when a threat like this is made I find myself less sympathetic to the child than I would be.

My parents tried to stay together "for the sake of the kids." The results weren't good for ANYbody, and certainly not the kids: eight years of increasing fighting and anger that made both my parents bitter and frustrated and depressed and wrought permanent changes in their personalities, and made my brother's and my home life very, very painful. It was a deep relief when they finally split. When my brother decided to get divorced, he and his wife talked it over and decided that if they put *all* of their energies into it for at least a year of intensive relationship work, there was a chance they could salvage the relationship... but that there was a higher chance they'd wind up destroying what was left of their friendship, and if that happened, they'd be worse joint parents for their son. At first my nephew was upset and didn't understand why they wouldn't get back together, but his parents work well together, and he got over it. Sometimes, divorce IS better for the kids.