By AFEmoWifey - 09/10/2012 10:21 - United States - Palmyra
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We bent over backwards to make her comfortable. However, I'm not letting her have a say in my baby making. I'm 23 years older than her so she needs to be more respectful.
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Speak to the father about it?
kaallen87
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Then don't let her in the house. She needs to learn that she can't make those threats. It doesn't matter what she has been through. You have to protect yourself even if thateans she feels punished.
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ElishaisSexy2016
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Send the kid to anger management. :) problem solved :)
She's 10 and she's heard of miscarriages caused by being pushed down the stairs? I'm wondering where she's getting her information? Perhaps though a jealous ex-wife that's brainwashing her kid. So sad!
She's most likely just scared it will take her dad's attention away from her. My mom got remarried and had her second child when I was 14 and I was nervous at first. Now my little
Oops hit max words. My little sister is like my baby. I love her to death and would never change a thing. Just wait until the baby is born, she'll come around.
Acting like your new family is more important than her feelings and posting about it here for attention tells me you're the kind of stepmom that shouldn't be allowed near her. Her father needs to spend less time with you and more time letting his child know that she comes first so she wouldn't have insecurity issues in the first place. Existing children need to come before new relationships. If she isn't comfortable he needs to leave you.
Actually I'm the stepmom who pays for all of her music lessons (guitar and singing) and her cheer leading. I don't do it because I have to, but because she loves it and I want her to be happy. So now what do you have to say?
You can't buy love! :P (Seriously though, money isn't a valid argument.)
Paying for things makes you an ATM. Not a mother. Good for you for having money. It doesn't change the fact that you aren't her family and you need to back off.
Stop being judgemental. You don't know the OP and you don't know how she treats her stepdaughter. She could be the best stepmom in the world and the girl could still hate her. We just don't have enough information to make such statements. Even if she was a horrible stepmom, the daughter still went to far. She threatened to hurt her if she had a baby. It's not normal for a 10 year old to threaten other people. @OP, talk with the father and the girl. A divorce could have a huge impact on a child and she might need some help to deal with it. You should also make sure that her mother isn't the one who is whispering things in her ears.
@ 145, I don't think that she meant it that way. what I got from her comment is, that she is doing whatever it takes to make her happy. She wouldn't be paying for those things if she hated her stepdaughter. You are right though, you can't buy love. @146, It looks like you are taking your personal feelings out on the OP. Why are you being so defensive about this?
Because instead of handling a sensitive child's emotions with communication and giving her space to process with her actual parents, she's posting on here trying to make a confused child that is lashing out into a demon so she can get sympathy. That's why. Parents show concern for a child's feelings and emotional needs. They don't post on FML.
No but putting her happiness first was where I was going with that.
Really not what FML is for. Welcome. You are mistaken. That's why we come here. To post and comment and get laughs. I am not looking for sympathy. I'm trying to find a way to cope. We all do that differently.
klovemachine
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96 is a failure in life and a piece of trash. Now get off the planet, idiot :). Oh, and game, set, and match to the OP
Bludmagnus
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Not to tell you to stop, but this is the reality that far too many parents need to get. The children's happiness hinges on the parents unless the parents' hinges on abuse. So unless you have hurt her in real measure, you have every right to not do a damn thing for her.
Tell your husband what was said.
inakatoots
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Was she with her mom when she said this? Just wondering cuz my 7 YO stepdaughter often voices what she heard her mom saying.
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Push the 10 year old down the stairs? Ok, bad plan.
That is so sad, maybe you can get her some help accepting that relationship? But from now on I'd be extra careful..