He's obviously well-trained to not expect any sex from you. He goes to **** when he's turned on like a dog wagging his tail whenever he's hungry. YDI for being a frigid refrigerator and show him what you can do.

Wow, you must be truly horrible in bed for a man to choose his own hand rather than any part of your body. Either that or you are horrible to be with to the point that he can't consider having sex with you as an option. For a man to turn down sex of any kind from his wife means that he doesn't deem you worthy of it as a man will pretty much hump anything -- we're simple like that. Just for clarification... how long is 'a while'? I am betting he would call it 'an eternity'. In my opinion, even a week is too long (on average) for some kind of sexual contact if you're in a relationship. If you want to change this, be very direct (take control) and see how he reacts. Don't 'hint' at having sex or dance around the subject, men hate that -- go grab what you want and put it where you want it. If that doesn't get the results you're looking for, then this part of your relationship with him is probably over.

YDI - You must have been very hairy. Us guys do NOT like that. Well, the straight normal ones usually don't. :)

My wife does the same thing so I must comment. She only shaves when she wants sex, the problem is I mostly see her as an over weight hairy women that doesn't take care of her self. Before all the women attack me calling me an asshole I will say this, I groom, shower twice a day, go to the gym 3 to 4 times a week. I try and keep myself looking good, I only want the same in return. I also ask this to all women here, would you rather **** Johnny Depp or Homer Simpson?

You have to redeem yourself as the sexy babe who WILL put out. Don't just show him what you want. TAKE what you want. No man on earth can resist a girl throwing him onto the bed when she has her bra dangling off her arm and panties around her knees. if that doesn't work, you're probably fat.

awww im sorry! marriage counseling? Maybe talk to him, because that's horrible

He obviously likes the pornstars better than you

Honey, I believe it's time to invest in vibrators and ******.

maybe he meaned," could I eat your pussy out now that I have an erection?" still that would be ******* terrible that you couldn't get him arosed.

gonna agree with the majority here. he's probably used to taking care of himself if you're not putting the effort in anymore