I dislike the "every man's dream" stereotype too, and I'm sure the reality wouldn't be as great as the fantasy. After all, it's *fantasy*. But dude, you can't fairly judge an entire demographic based on one experience. Plenty of bisexuals believe in monogamy and live it happily. That's like saying because one hetero girl cheated on you, all hetero girls will eventually want to play with a bigger dick. Or, for that matter, different personalities, sexual preferences, fetishes, body types, etc. Sex is one of those things that has so many shades of grey, and they can all affect how fulfilling your sex life is at one time or another. Nobody's doomed to cheat or be unhappy.

I dislike the "every man's dream" stereotype too, and I'm sure the reality wouldn't be as great as the fantasy. After all, it's *fantasy*. But dude, you can't fairly judge an entire demographic based on one experience. Plenty of bisexuals believe in monogamy and live it happily. That's like saying because one hetero girl cheated on you, all hetero girls will eventually want to play with a bigger dick. Or, for that matter, different personalities, sexual preferences, fetishes, body types, etc. Sex is one of those things that has so many shades of grey, and they can all affect how fulfilling your sex life is at one time or another. Nobody's doomed to cheat or be unhappy.

Shit. Sorry for the double post.

@110 Oh you misunderstood, I didn't say she cheated on me, this was after we broke up, and I wasn't judging any demographics. Just pointing out to everyone who thinks 'bi-girlfriend = WOOT!' that this isn't always the case. And that most people can only deny themselves of something they desire for so long before it builds up to the point when it can start to create an issue. It was definitely not why we broke up, but after the fact she admitted that it was in fact an issue. It's like if your two favorite drinks are Iced Tea and Lemonade. And one day while drinking Iced Tea you declare 'I love Iced Tea, I could drink it all day long, but nothing beats a tall glass of Lemonade on those hot summer days.' So the Iced Tea not wanting to be left out to twiddle it's thumbs but trying to remain open to your needs says 'You can have all the Iced Tea you want, but if you want Lemonade you're going to have to pour yourself an Arnold Palmer.' But you're uncomfortable with this because you're afraid the strong sour flavor of the Lemonade will over power the Iced Tea until you can barely taste it, but you're really diggin' on that Iced Tea so you decide you'll just stop drinking Lemonade all together. But eventually those hot summer days are gonna come along and you might just start to crave a tall glass of Lemonade, and when that happens you might start to resent your decision to only drink Iced Tea.

Heh, as soon as I posted that comment, I realized I should've used an example other than cheating. I actually did understand what you were saying the first time; I just neglected to clarify that I was only using a straight cheating girl as a comparison. My point was just that whether you're bi, straight, or gay, being monogamous means giving up the possibility of finding something more "perfect" for you sexually. To borrow your analogy, in a monogamous relationship, it doesn't matter if you're craving lemonade, ie a female partner, or raspberry iced tea, ie a different male; you still run the risk of resenting your partner, the plain ol' iced tea you've committed to, over time. It may take more consideration to enter into a monogamous relationship if you're bi, but you're not necessarily more prone to resentment or regretting your choice once you do. Make sense? As for the stereotyping bit, I interpreted the last statement from your post to be a generalization. Perhaps I just misinterpreted it. We still agree, though, that in reality, the fantasy isn't always what it's thought to be. That was your main point anyway, I think.

#107 So if a girl has had more female partners than male partners then they're a nymphomaniac? Just because OP's girlfriend has had more girlfriends than he has doesn't mean she's had a shocking amount of lovers. For example, OP could have had two girlfriends and his girlfriend could have had 3 or 4.

Well, korpse, you're right about one thing. Your skepticism is indeed strange. -.- I don't understand your reasoning about what's "natural". It's not like every bisexual is attracted to both sexes by equal degrees; they don't all fall exactly between totally straight and totally gay on the sexual orientation spectrum. OP's girlfriend could easily be more attracted to girls in general, in which case, it would be natural for her to have more female than male exes. Basically, you've been given no real evidence that the gf is a ****, or that her exes were fuckbuddies. I'm not even going to pretend to follow the hypocrite bit.

Nope - she's a nymphomaniac when she's had way more "gfs". The quotation marks are on purpose, as there are double standards when it comes defining relationships - even the most shallow ones with guys always require some kind of courtship, while "being gfs" can (CAN) only be about having a good time together and maybe a blast in bed. Most of the so-called "bisexuals" I've met just experimented, and by "relationship with a woman" they just meant meeting on a common, yet irregular basis with some other girl that just happened not to have any other partner, getting a bit drunk while complaining about guys not having high standards, and then fingering each other pretending that it's so much mature and sophisticated than having a male **** buddy. Plus, it's always a hot partytalk topic, isn't it? But you're actually right - I overreacted here. Maybe it's because it reminded me of the above. and I just hate the way the image of real bisexualism is distorted by the behaviour of self-absorbed teenage skanks.

@TheIrishJaneDoe You're right about the different degrees, I oversimplified this by writing that the number should be "about equal" - I certainly don't mean to point out what amounts are acceptable. I rather meant the cases when someone's had one or two serious relationships with guys, but 7 so-called "girlfriends" to hold hands with and kiss at parties while being unable to develop any deeper feelings (like in my comment above). The hypocrite bit: 1. many guys don't expect threesomes 2. girls suggesting we do are actually insulting bi people (by considering threesomes a logical outcome of bisexualism) 3. "hypocrites" - the pseudo-bi girls I wrote about earlier