Get prego again, no big deal. Sorry for sounding tactless but if it was late in the pregnancy, i would be more tactful. Before 12 weeks is nothing. (waits for unsightly rebukes)

40, it's still a great burden on the girl's emotions, no matter what time in the pregnancy it is/was. You make it sound like any emotional attachment before x-number-of-weeks is absurd and the person's insane. Have you ever been pregnant?

Sigh. Rebee I think you already know that comment was absurd. Yes, it can be easier to lose a child early on, rather than later in the pregnancy, but have you ever been pregnant? I will tell you something. I lost a child and I don't care how many weeks I was or how old the child was. Losing a child is losing a child. Whether it's the day you find out or not.

It's especially hard if you're not one of those fertile women who can get pregnant just by looking at a guy. People who are trying hard to get a child and lose are devastated whether it's one day after conception or 40 weeks after.

Exactly RPS. I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. It's nearly impossible to get pregnant without fertility drugs.

Well peeps, i have miscarried and even after i was diagnosed with Endometriosis, wich makes it very hard to fall pregnant. i was 5-6 weeks and it was literally a heavy period. Not a big deal. I do however, have a friend that lost a baby ( baby, not embryo) at 5 and a half months in. THAT is devastating, not having a heavy period and a quick procedure after to clean it up in there. Sorry if i 'offended' anyone, but please, dont complain about it early on, a miscarige is a miscarige and a still birth is a still birth. There is a HUGE diff and one is def. more emotionally trying than the other.

I disagree with you #168. I have someone very close to me that miscarried a couple of years ago and she still thinks about it all the time. You might just think, Eh not a biggie, but that's just your opinion and some people don't handle things as well. I loved my son more than life itself from the moment I found out I was pregnant. If I would have had a miscarriage I would still be devastated. That is a fact. Yeah, I may not know what it's actually like. I think that a person who has had a miscarriage has every single right to be upset about. Sure, loosing it farther along would probably be more traumatizing, but some people bond with the fetus from the start.

168- Just because that's -your- experience, doesn't make it the same for everyone else.

Rebbee, your comment is so unbelievably ignorant, it's actually hard to swallow what you said. I first want to say that I am very sorry about your disorder and that yes, it is very hard to get pregnant when you have Endometriosis. I have to say, that as a woman who's miscarried to another, your words are truly appalling. You have absolutely NO business telling someone that losing their baby is no big deal. Who are you to tell someone to 'shrug if off' as if it's nothing. Some women consider their 'embryo' a baby at conception. We are not all as cold as your are. I have no idea where you live or where you went for your 'quick' procedure, but let me tell you, that is /not/ how it works. How dare you tell someone not to complain about it early on! Do you know what it's like to try for 3 years to get pregnant with no success and then when you finally find out you're pregnant, your entire world is better? Only to find out that all of that hard work is gone? To some people, a child is everything and having one means the world to them. It is incredibly devastating to try and try and try and you just keep losing. I lost my child when I was 8 months pregnant. **** you for ever saying that what I went through was devastating, but what my best friend, who miscarried at 15 weeks, was no big deal and she should not complain. She lost something that she cherished, something she knew was inside of her. The second you find out you're pregnant, you're a mother and you're preparing. You buy books and bottles, blankets and onesies, clothes and nukes! You're going to tell me, that it's OK to throw all of that away. My sister has had 5 miscarriages before 17 weeks and she finally gave up. Do you think that she should stop complaining? No. She has every right to feel sad, lonely, upset or lost. I'm not even figuring in the psychological factor. If you have ever opened up a psychology book and read it and tried to understand the human mind or true human emotions, you would get why what you said was callas, cold and completely unwarranted. That is just the emotional part of miscarrying. There's also the physical aspect of miscarrying. For example, when you go in for a D&C there are risks and complications just as any other surgery. Not to mention the fact that they are scooping out the remains of your child or as you would say your 'embryo.' Unless you have suffered both, please, keep your damn mouth shut. You are an ignorant and ill advised person on this subject. I truly hope and pray that you are not this ignorant about everything, because I can assure you're not well liked if you are. Starting your comment with "Well peeps" truly proved your immaturity and lack of compassion for the people that responded to you. Grow up.

do everyone a favor and go get your endometriosis back because someone like you shouldn't have children.

176, maybe you should read my post again. The point i am trying to convey here is that a miscariage, early on and a d &c is much less intrustive, emotionally trying and heartbreaking than giving birth to a still born baby. As i said earlier, a friend of mine gave birth to a baby girl at 5and a half months and understandably, she was absolutely heartbroken. I found from MY OWN experience a miscariage is far less traumatising than giving birth to a still baby. I understand that by some peoples standards having a miscariage would be awful but compare a stil birth to a miscariage. I know what i would prefur. You are speaking to to someone who has experienced a miscariage and who has a disorder that makes it very difficult to fall pregnant. I appreciate that some people dont take it lightly, but from experience, it happens, get some help and move on with life. It does go on.

Rebbee you should just stop. Just because you're a cold, heartless, bitch doesn't mean everyone is. Bottom line: for some women it's just as devastating. Whether it's still born or a miscarriage.

I read your comment plenty of times and you're suggesting women get over a miscarriage. Which you can't even spell.

Rebbee- did you read my comment?

I did 185, I do understand that. 182, why is it so fuking difficult for you, and others to comprehend that life goes on? Im not saying that the woman should not be upset but for pete's sake why is it so hard for you to allow me to speak my mind and give my opinion on a subject I honestly can relate to? Btw, a bit knit picky with my spelling mistakes dont you think? As i said, its my opinion based on my experience, call me what you like i honestly couldnt give a shit, but i would not let a miscarriage ruin my life or take hold of my emotions because majority of the time (for this woman in particular as its her first pregnancy) Life will go on. I have known woman with healthy children that allow a miscarriage to take over their lives and they children suffer due to their mother's instability. My opinion sticks. Miscarriages happen, as do people close to us die, there is a time to grieve then a time to get some help to move on and lead a happy, fulfilling life, with or without children. If OP's situation was a regular occurance or after being informed it would be difficult to fall pregnant, my opinion may vary slightly, but as OP stated, its a first pregnancy, there is time for new life ahead ( also OP must be quite young because of her friends suggestions to 'get pissed' and it will be ok) Call me cold, callas, a bitch, wish upon me whatever you like but once again, its ultimately upto a higher power what happens in our lives and i wish all of you who have suffered, the ability to seek help and move on with life.

nit picky* Unless you're picking at the yarn from the scarf you'd knit... Really, I can understand that you've been there and all, and that this is something you've experienced. However, you seem to also tell us in the same breath that everyone else's idea is wrong. Accept that we agree to disagree, you have your opinion and we have ours. There is no reason to force feed us what you believe is right. Life DOES go on, otherwise the woman would die right there in the doctor's office. That doesn't mean that the memory of what had happen will ever leave her mind. Everyone deals with pain differently.

I find it absolutely hilarious how much your comment has changed. Your initial comment was completely different from what you are saying now. If you're going to 'stick' to your opinion, at least get it right.

Read it again, you obviously are not understanding what i am saying or just like to reply for the sake of replying. My original comment was along the lines of 'deal with it' and my posts following that we just re confirming that, but explaining it in more detail. As for the spelling and punctuation errors, sorry, im using an iphone so its a little hard to type and once i make a mistake i couldnt be bothered going back to fix it. Anyway ladies, best of luck to youboth and i am looking forward to any future rebukes! :-)

I have never experienced something like this, so I'll stay out of the main argument. Just pointing out one thing, though: A stillbirth and a miscarriage are two very different things. Although they can both be devastating, I'm not sure it's fair to compare them. Apples to oranges and all that. I don't consider this nit-picking, because it's a pretty big discrepancy, and quite relevant to the issues you two are debating.

it's because they don't have a life so they drink a lot to forget that they have no point to being on earth. ftw