i do believe you meant 'children are irreplaceable' or 'children can NOT be replaced' but I otherwise agree with this comment.

Agreed, along with 76's caveat. I'd prefer to read downright mean comments, like the 530 dude's up there, than such misguided "advice" or "comfort". =

Shit. And I thought I hadn't make any mistakes. Obviously, it must have been 'not replaceable'.

I don't agree with the first part of her comment at all. People don't think before they speak and sometimes that can be an awkward situation. I know when I lost my child, my friends barely said anything to me. They just sat with their heads down and said they were sorry, but my dad did say something on the lines of "it's probably for the best" At the time, it pissed me to no extent, but it came out wrong and he didn't mean it in the way I took it. OC, I am going to bitch slap you for that.

I'm sorry. Most people never know the right things to say, so they err on the side of saying nothing. Your father probably should have stuck to that.

FFML_314; If you don't know a decent thing to say in those kind of situations, you just don't say anything at all, if you don't want to make things worse. With all my respect, but your father should simply have closed his mouth, and if I was you, I would have thrown him out of my house. He was trying to say something good, but it was an awful, awful reaction. But don't take my post that literally, I don't want people to throw rocks at eachother. People need to think before they speak, that's something even children learn at school. Oh, and organisedchaos, your post is so incredibly, incredibly rude and idiotic that I can see a very obvious sign of being braindead. I would check a doctor, if I were you, and a psy. And I hope your comment will disappear soon.

I wasn't taking it that seriously, 121. I'm sure you were just being sarcastic. I was just giving my opinion as to the other side. I agree with you. What he said was unnecessary and he was thrown out of my hospital room and I didn't speak to him for months, but I understand now that he meant no harm and it certainly taught all of us a lesson to watch what we say. We make an example out of him and it does help. People are always blurting out the first things that come to mind and I used to have diarrhea of the mouth, but I kept myself into trouble. I feel so horrible for the OP. It's tragic and it's a difficult thing to over come. Sorry if I offended you.

Chaos, I really don't understand you. Really not. Do you know why? Well, I don't know where you get it from, but I have never had a miscarriage. Don't forget I'm just eightteen years old, and I know perfectly the working of the pill. That's one. Two, if I, as a normally sarcastic, cynical, black-humorous, dead-baby-jokes-liking person who have never lost a child is able to be a little sensitive and respectful in that kind of situation, why can't her, I guess, normal acting friends be? You are doing like it's so damn difficult to shut your mouth, but it you're trying, even a little bit, it isn't. Also, I hate ignorance. And in this situation, it simply was unacceptable.

OC- Usually, whether a person's experienced what their friend's going through or not, they will have some level of sympathy/empathy. You just seem rather... (sorry for being slightly redundant) unsympathetic. Is there any reason for that?

DjeePee I completely agree with you.

Steph, there's a reason. He's an ass.

Ass or not, the boy can argue a point. Not saying I agree, but at least he seems to have integrity.

But OC, what exactly is your point? That children CAN be replaced? Well, yeah, you're wrong, they can't, simply as that. Really, what can I say more? You obviously never had children, nor the ability to think properly. But I'm going to try to explain myself to you, and therefore I will use a method I normally disgust. Let's compare losing a(n unborn) child with losing a dog. You're sad. Very sad. People say you should easily take a new dog. But that won't do it for you. You don't want a new dog, you want YOUR dog back. You're not sad because some random dog passed away, no, you are because it was your beloved friend. Even if you once get a new, very cool, dog, that you will love like the first one, it still isn't the same. Your first dog will emotionally never be replaced. Got it? And losing a dog is much less devastating than losing a(n unborn) child, or well, that is for the most of us. (But please, don't argue that the dog died perhaps at 15 years old whilst the child wasn't even born yet, because that doesn't matter.) Oh, and children annoy the shit out of me. But still I know they aren't replaceable, even unborn ones, especially for the mother. Every pregnancy is unique, you should realise that. Inviting your crying friend who just lost her first child to drink again like in the good old times is unacceptable. Her friend is blaming her for being responsible (no alcohol during pregnancy, no hangovers, no fun, boeheoeoeoe), and therefore her miscarriage is a good thing - yeaaah, bring back the beers and college life! Conclusion: her friends are egoistic *****, and I have nothing against egoïsm, but in this situation, yeah, it is unacceptable.