Sorry to be off topic with this, but, I love your hair. ^_^

I'm going to agree. :) I love bright red hair!

Thanks, ladies. :]

Hey, back off ladies. She's coming with me.

You're doing it at the same time? I'd like to watch

:o

I agree with you, Jane. My fiancée and I have gone through two miscarriages, and the last thing on either of our minds was going out and drinking. She just wanted to lay in a dark room, and I couldn't blame her. Although it's not physically hard for the guy, take it from me, it's emotionally devastating. It's incredibly insensitive for a friend to ask that right away. OP, I think it's time for you to re-evaluate your friendships!

very thoughtful advice, that was very kind of you.

I respect your beliefs, but how is that last bit any more comforting than "Your baby's in a better place"? Neither ought to be said to someone right after a loss, IMO. Yeah, yeah, I get that this is an interwebz lulz site, not a bereavement forum, and OP opened herself up for such comments, but still. :( Maybe I'm too much of a softy in these matters.

I don't believe in shying away from reality. I'm not going to tell her that her baby is in a better place just because she can't come to grips that her child is gone forever. Religion is the opiate of the masses. I wish I could live life carefree...but I have the gift...or curse as seeing things as they really are. No I am not saying that for the lulz

I wasn't implying that you ought to say something like "It's in a better place" if you don't believe that, nor that you ought to believe in religion. I was saying both that response and yours are equally thoughtless and tactless, even if they come from opposite viewpoints and good intentions. There's a difference between "shying away from reality" and shutting up when someone is hurting because reality is shit. You said yourself that there's no comfort in your thought. Even if you don't agree with the modern social conventions of tact, there's no purpose in stating the obvious except unnecessary cruelty.

shut the **** up. abortion is a persons choice and shouldn't be made for someone else. if your agains abortion you can raise the little bastard but don't get in other peoples way of life.

aww man c'mon!!!

grow up ok.

that blue girl is pissed.

that's because she's an avatar, avatars are ugly and never get laid.

haha she does look like an avatar! : )

WTF 530boy? If she would have meant abortion she probably would have said it. I don't believe in abortion at all. I think it's selfish but you can't assume every woman who says she had a miscarriage really had an abortion. Miscarriages happen a lot. Besides a person who has had an abortion usually wouldn't be sad about it since it's a choice.

No, 128. Your last statement is far from the truth.

Which part? Because in most cases abortion is a choice. Yes, there are medical reasons but for the most part women use it as a form of birth control. Only about 1 or 2% are medical. Also, all the girls I have known who have had abortions (I live in a college town and the numbers are high here) were relieved, not sad. Again, I'm sure there are cases where this is not true but I didn't say it was always true. I said usually which I personally think is true. Really, I don't see why you replied to what I said when none of this was my point. My point was that you just can't assume that any woman who has miscarried must have had an abortion because that is in no way, a fact. The rest is my opinion.

Who are you referring to 144?

I replied, because I wanted to tell you that your last statement wasn't the truth. You don't need to get defensive. I didn't make a point to say anything about the rest of your post, because I didn't care.

152- Oh, I wasn't getting defensive. I just wanted to know what really bothered you so much about my last statement that you felt the need to comment. You just said you don't agree. But why? A simple answer is never enough for me. Disagreeing with my whole comment would have made sense to me. I just wanted your opinion on the subject since you disagree with mine apparently. That is all. But if you don't feel like sharing, fine. It's just FML. I'm here to express my opinion and hear other people's. Just because I argue with you doesn't mean I'm angry or freaking out. It's just what I do (:

156- I will also disagree with the last part of your statement. However, I also agree with a part of it. Disregarding 99% of your post, I agree that abortion is a choice. I disagree, though, that they wouldn't be sad about it because it's a choice.

I wasn't bothered at all. I'm not sure how much more clear I can be. :/ It was just the last part of your comment, it's not based on fact. That's all. I understand why you said it, though.

I agree. I should have worded the last part better instead of making it sound like I was trying to state a fact. My bad.

The problem here, is the definition of 'choice', I think. Like when you 'choose' to get an abortion because you know you will get kicket out of your house by your parents, and you don't have anywhere to go and don't want to raise a child being homeless. That doesn't mean you want it, or that it is something you even support, just that you are doing the smartest thing for yourself. Than you can still be sad about it. And I don't know where you're from, but if you know girls who use abortion as a form of birth control, they should really consider going in therapy, because that is not a healthy state of mind. Getting an abortion has a big impact on your body and mind, even though you might not realise it at the moment. I am pro-abortion, but I would rather see people better educated about the consequences of sex, and use the pill, or condoms or something.

You're probably right, but after a few free rounds, the OP will forget the faux pas.