By bdk_2020 - 17/01/2010 00:16 - United Kingdom
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Ok. I've tried explaining why I did what I did, but I'm still getting the death threats and a lot of the word '****' being used to show your disdain. I would like to tell you what really happened, not because I want you on my side or I'm trying to defend what I did. I just want you to see that what happened was based on simple stupidity and not because I'm the spawn of satan. So here's you some of the stuff you've all assumed that I would like to put right: - 1. This man was not at all elderly. He must have been 45-50 years old. You don't have to be elderly to have Parkinson's Disease. See Michael J. Fox for proof of that. 2. I offered to pack for him before he started struggling himself. He was alone, so I felt I should help him. He declined. That's why I thought he could do it himself. 3. I had no idea he was suffering from arthritis or Parkinson's Disease. I'd never met him before. He was struggling to open the bags, like myself and most people do, and so I made the very stupid comment based on that. 4. No, I didn't notice the shaking associated with Parkinson's Disease. I know that people think Cashier's are all idiots, wasters and the job is really easy, but you do have to focus on the screen in front of you to check the identity and the price of the item is correct. Therefore, I was barely focusing on his movements or his mannerisms. I was just doing what I'm paid to do. 5. As soon as he told me what was wrong, and I then focused on him properly, I then noticed he had a mild tremor in his hands. 6. I immediately apologised for what I said, feeling terrible. I then opened all the bags for him and offered to pack. He declined because, like you, he thought I had made fun of him because of his disability. I tried to explain, but he didn't want to hear. 7. If I knew he was struggling because he had a medical reason for not being able to open the bags, I would never had said it and would have made him let me pack. I would hate it if I saw someone who clearly had a disability not being able to do something and I'm just standing there ignoring it - That IS evil. 8. He left angry and hurt. I was left feeling horrible and guilty for being so stupid. 9. I wanted to post the FML not to get sympathy. As I said, I felt terrbile for upsetting him, and I just wanted to get it off my chest. I wanted to show people how much of an ass I'd been that day. 10. FML is all about bad things that have happened to you or that you have done. I felt that my stupidity for saying that to a man I didn't know was an FML moment. In retrospect, I realise that the way I worded the FML sounds like I was being cruel. I can understand why you are all upset. But to say I deserve to die or have all this offensive language thrown in my direction was ok? You know nothing about me. To assume that I always behave like this, that I'm this evil, vindictive bastard, based on one stupid comment... Well, I really don't know. Furthermore, why would I post this as an FML moment if I enjoy being horrible to people? It's because I hate myself for being so stupid that I posted this. Again, I really am sorry if I offended anyone. The last thing I wanted was all of this, so I just hope this post will clears it all up.
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And what exactly would compel you to think making fun of anyone, for any reason, even if you thought you were being charming, would make the person you're poking fun at laugh in the first place? Given, people can and should have a good laugh. Being too uptight to laugh at yourself isn't living. 98% of situations people pick on me about are, honestly, pretty damn funny. However, there are some topics that make me want to bitchslap people...while the person sitting next to me might laugh if someone had picked on them for that same topic, and likewise might be sensitive to a topic I had laughed about at myself personally. I have a friend with cerebral palsy who is the most amazing person I've ever met. He joins in with us and often surpasses our moral limits himself when we pick on him, and it's done as a way of accepting it. Yet had a stranger pointed it out in the same crude fashion (and this HAS happened), not only he, but all of his close friends including myself, would be livid and ready to fight. Because of this, you will never know who is sensitive to what and who is not. It's not your place (especially with a total stranger) to pick and choose and assume what he or she will find heartily hilarious. Have some decency, a brain-to-mouth filter and a little bit of empathy for someone's feelings. Karma might spare you your own someday. YDI.
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Quadruple this (I would have written it out again, then posted another ^THIS^) I hope OP gets the conditions in question.
#46, as do I. Unfortunately, attempting to be a voice of reason on this website is usually fruitless, as it almost always falls on deaf ears. More than half of the people in here calling this guy an asshole have absolutely no qualms making fun of overweight people in other posts. And yes, obesity COULD be controlled much easier than Parkinson's, but no matter how you slice it, it's an absolute disregard of people's feelings. Funny how that double standard exists everywhere. Sad, sick world we live in that people can't treat each other with a sense of civility.
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doubledouble that that!
cjammer - I don't think most FML readers would advocate publicly humiliating an overweight customer.
Exactly, pendatic. LilaBear, if your comment was honest, then you have more faith in humanity than I do. And with absolutely no sarcasm, I envy you.
Even with what the OP said, if you wish a condition like that upon anyone, you're an awful person, and that's that
Even if he was "normal" maybe he had a busied mind!! You try too clown others however its proben the only clown is YOU op!! My five year old niece at three had more respect than you do!! I say grow up!! And screw off ya douche!!!!
I hope after he dies your the first person he haunts.
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Odd, I don't really find your comment funny at all. Maybe it was a "you had to be there" moment. On another note, how the **** can you notice he had trouble with opening the bags and not notice the manner of trouble he was having? That has to be impossible for anyone with a brain, so... I guess that leaves only one possibility for you, doesn't it, OP?
How much of an idiot are you? Couldn't you tell that the reason the man was struggling to open the bags was a medical condition? Not only are you an idiot, you are an insensitive douche! What exactly makes you think that you are entitled to make fun of others? Please, do us all a favour and just killyourself
YDI for being a douchedick If you know the man was old then you can presume he has some problem no shit you retarded brit
I agree with the fact that op is a ****, but retarded brit? Whilst retarded he may be, Brit has nothing to do with it, you are also a **** for bringing country into question. I am also from Britain. and we have our fair share of idiots as do every country in the world. So if you want to hate on the person then do so, as they deserve, but do not bring country into it.
You didn't notice the resting tremor characteristic of Parkinson's Disease? It's fairly difficult to miss since those afflicted tend to, you know, shake. Clearly you're exceptionally unobservant and should probably not have a job which requires you to interact with people even incidentally.
Some people don't have the tremor; they just have a stiffness in their affected side. (My Mum has it.) But I agree - it's pretty easy to see that one side of her body just Doesn't Work.
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Yeah, you're an ass.
YDI for being such a dick