By bdk_2020 - 17/01/2010 00:16 - United Kingdom
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Ok. I've tried explaining why I did what I did, but I'm still getting the death threats and a lot of the word '****' being used to show your disdain. I would like to tell you what really happened, not because I want you on my side or I'm trying to defend what I did. I just want you to see that what happened was based on simple stupidity and not because I'm the spawn of satan. So here's you some of the stuff you've all assumed that I would like to put right: - 1. This man was not at all elderly. He must have been 45-50 years old. You don't have to be elderly to have Parkinson's Disease. See Michael J. Fox for proof of that. 2. I offered to pack for him before he started struggling himself. He was alone, so I felt I should help him. He declined. That's why I thought he could do it himself. 3. I had no idea he was suffering from arthritis or Parkinson's Disease. I'd never met him before. He was struggling to open the bags, like myself and most people do, and so I made the very stupid comment based on that. 4. No, I didn't notice the shaking associated with Parkinson's Disease. I know that people think Cashier's are all idiots, wasters and the job is really easy, but you do have to focus on the screen in front of you to check the identity and the price of the item is correct. Therefore, I was barely focusing on his movements or his mannerisms. I was just doing what I'm paid to do. 5. As soon as he told me what was wrong, and I then focused on him properly, I then noticed he had a mild tremor in his hands. 6. I immediately apologised for what I said, feeling terrible. I then opened all the bags for him and offered to pack. He declined because, like you, he thought I had made fun of him because of his disability. I tried to explain, but he didn't want to hear. 7. If I knew he was struggling because he had a medical reason for not being able to open the bags, I would never had said it and would have made him let me pack. I would hate it if I saw someone who clearly had a disability not being able to do something and I'm just standing there ignoring it - That IS evil. 8. He left angry and hurt. I was left feeling horrible and guilty for being so stupid. 9. I wanted to post the FML not to get sympathy. As I said, I felt terrbile for upsetting him, and I just wanted to get it off my chest. I wanted to show people how much of an ass I'd been that day. 10. FML is all about bad things that have happened to you or that you have done. I felt that my stupidity for saying that to a man I didn't know was an FML moment. In retrospect, I realise that the way I worded the FML sounds like I was being cruel. I can understand why you are all upset. But to say I deserve to die or have all this offensive language thrown in my direction was ok? You know nothing about me. To assume that I always behave like this, that I'm this evil, vindictive bastard, based on one stupid comment... Well, I really don't know. Furthermore, why would I post this as an FML moment if I enjoy being horrible to people? It's because I hate myself for being so stupid that I posted this. Again, I really am sorry if I offended anyone. The last thing I wanted was all of this, so I just hope this post will clears it all up.
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You guys need to calm down.... don't stereotype people. " Look where he ended up working" "Made fun of others in highschool" How do you know he isn't still IN high school trying to make some money? How do you know he coulden't afford to go to college? Or maybe he lost his job? You are all assholes. He was making a joke, like none of you would like to have a little laugh from time to time... FYL, OP
Being you clearly said "All of you", some of us (myself included) are assholes for telling him to be civil to people? If I saw somebody was uncomfortable in a situation (unlike my friend as stated in my first comment), I wouldn't "have a little laugh" at their expense. Guess what? I may pick on and play with my friends (as they do with me), but it's always done so with levity, and they KNOW we are playing around. I have never, in my life, EVER deliberately said something to somebody WITHOUT knowing how they would take it, because I know exactly how that feels. So, using your own logic, don't stereotype and assume everybody would "like to have a little laugh" at the potential cost of someone else's feelings.
You need to calm the **** down.
I work in a grocery store as a cashier, and have seen many customers struggle to open plastic bags, but not once have I ever laughed at them. You sir, are a douche. YDI.
You work at a supermarket... you must be to stupid to get a real job. Kill yourself asshole.
You can be full time and get benefits at a grocery store. What's the "real" job that you have that makes you think so highly of yourself?
When people jokingly make fun of me, I laugh. For example, I slipped the other day and all my friends laughed at me, but I laughed too, despite the great pain. You're probably gonna ask why and call me douche.. Well I'm gonna let you answer that one, because you all think you're so smart.
Slipping and falling is an easy thing to laugh at yourself about and with your friends. But about a disease and to someone you don't know is a completely different level.
One more thing. You're all telling me there's something wrong with me. That I deserve to die or I must be some sort of sicko for saying what I said. Yet you know absolutely nothing about me.... Isn't that what I did to this guy? I said something without knowing about his life or his medical history? Look, just don't assume that there's something wrong with me. It makes you all as bad as what you think of me. That's all I'm saying.
There IS something wrong with you because you -made fun of an old man- who was having obvious problems with something. Instead of doing the decent thing and offering to help him, you chose to mock him because it would "be a laugh." What's wrong with you is that you're an asshole. And then you posted the it on FML, were you expecting sympathy here? You acted like a dick and people are gonna call you on it.
Dude... You put your story on the INTERNET and you didn't expect any backlash? You're never going to convince people to agree with you. Everyone who's saying "something is wrong with you" means what 92 said--that something wrong is that you're a jackass. No, we don't know you, but I can't imagine anyone who treats an old man like that to be charming or sweet. You're going to be called names, and you deserve it. Stop arguing with people on here and just let it go.
People are saying there's something wrong with your sense of morality and judgment. And really, going from your OP, that's a fair enough statement. You displayed your lack of judgment for the world to see, so you have to expect to be judged on that. Nobody is making judgments about your life, so we don't need to know your life story. We're making judgments about your behaviour to this bloke. If you didn't want this sort of judgment, you should have shut up and not posted it on FML. Secondly, yes the customer might have started laughing at himself first. But he's still a CUSTOMER. You join in laughing at someone when they're a friend. Not someone you're being paid to SERVE. Sure, bag out men if you want, because you yourself are a guy. Sure, have a little chuckle when he begins laughing. But making it personal - "what's wrong with you" - is stupid. Yes some of these comments are over the top, but FML commenters are often over the top. You have to expect that.
Guys.. People make mistakes, so I don't see why you're all so quick to judge someone on ONE event. Face it. We've all said stupid things at least once in our lives, but how would we feel if someone immediately judged us based on that one event? You heard what the guy said.. He laughed after the old man laughted at himself. He was trying to be funny and friendly. Even though this is on FML, I still don't think that's any reason to call him names and pretty much hate on him. We all just need to chill, and stop hating on someone for a mistake they've done once in their lives. God. You all are the reason why I've lost most of my faith in humanity.
my grandma has Parkinson's. it's hard to mistake her shaking hands for something done deliberately. making fun of someone else's weaknesses shows more than weakness on your part. I hope this makes you more sensitive, otherwise someday someone's going to test the sensitivity of your balls and the rest of the world will laugh at you. jerk.
Douche. @43: So? It's not nice to make fun of someone period. I can't even open up a Gatorade Bottle! I ask for help, and my friend did. She's my girlfriend now. Stop being an ass.
D:> poor guy. YDI, if I were you and a customer was struggling for a while I'd offer some help, not think it would be funny to laugh at them :/
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Yeah, you're an ass.
YDI for being such a dick