I understand the sentiment though not the method. It's very typical for a long engagement to become tedious and boring... Like marriage, you tend to get into a rut and never get back out. In the mean time you don't share your thoughts or your fears because you both assume you know what the other is thinking. Come to find out, probably too late, that one of you is really unhappy. The cool thing about him saying that, though, is things can only get better from that point. He's spoken his mind so either set him free or work on making your relationship exciting. It's very likely that it isn't YOU that he's bored with, but the relationship you two have together. I would suggest, number one: start COMMUNICATING! Nothing kills a good engagement faster than two people that can't express their true feelings to one another. There is NOTHING wrong with a long engagement. It gives you both a chance to explore the limits of your love, which includes the boring aspects of both your lives. It sounds like he's quite uncomfortable with all things boring, so it's very likely he's mentally too young for the hub-bub of every day life that adulthood. Let me guess, he has trouble keeping "boring" jobs? It's cool, though, as long as at the end of the day you can find ways to spice things up and he's obviously willing to settle with the idea that, sometimes, you're just going to bore him. Need some ideas for making things fun for him AND yourself? Here are some I love: 1) Video Games -If he doesn't already have one, buy a video game system. -After that, buy Guitar Hero or Rock Band and get the two guitars so you can both play. -Don't tell him about the system and play the shit out of that game. Play EVERY day. -After you've gotten really good, give it to him as a gift and challenge him. -Take it easy on him, especially if he has a sensitive ego, but win the first game and make it look close. -Lose the second game by a land-slide. Make sure to pick on him and yourself. -Win two more games, then let him win and tell him he can play on his own. -Let him practice a little until he gets his confidence up and thinks he's awesome. -Come back in and consistently beat the snot out of him. He'll hate you but he'll love trying to beat you. 2) Sex -Buy some lesbian **** for you two to have sex to. Don't just give it to him, let him show up one day while you're watching it. Don't get upset if he's screwing you while watching the girls... the whole point is that he can keep having sex with you while imagining he's with someone else. The fact that you're okay with this will make you "cool" in his eyes and as long as you make it clear that you don't want him screwing around on you, he'll know he can always get freaky whenever he's with you. -Learn how to suck him off like a pro. Watch a few ******* videos and follow these guidelines: Lots of lips, lots of spit and lots of pretending that it feels good to you too. Give him head at least once a week, never on the same day as last week. -Take control in the bedroom even if he fights it, it'll blow his mind. -Don't ever set up a threesome or an orgy of any kind. You two are definitely not ready for that. That's for when you're both determined to stay together. 3) Dating -Find a crazy dance club and take him there. Get drunk but not wasted and ONLY pay attention to him. Dance even when he doesn't want to. Have fun and he will think you're fun. -Sneak into the bathroom and suck him off. -Let him talk to girls while he's at the club but keep an eye on him. Skanks love to steal men and men have a lot of trouble saying no when there's sex up for grabs. If a ***** comes along, tell her off and if she's aggressive, kick her in the stomach. Yes, you will go to jail. -Go to a club every weekend, it'll change both your lives. 4) Food -Learn how to cook like a top chef. I don't care what your culinary preferences are, he probably wants meat and lots of it. -Get a temperature gauge for measuring the internal temperatures, get a big, expensive butt of meat, cut an inch deep across the top and bottom, then saturate it with just salt and pepper. Cook it in the oven at 350 until the gauge reads 130. Take it out. It will be rare but absolutely the best meat you've ever eaten. -Look online for recipes on how to cook things you already know how to make. -Asparagus is an amazing vegetable when it's cooked and seasoned right. Cornbread is way better with actual pieces of corn in it. Rice is seasoned best when cooked with a little pepper and chicken stock. Tilapia is one of the most flavorful fish out there, put some butter on it and some old bay seasoning (spicy or mild), wrap it in tin-foil and cook in the oven at 350 (the magic number, lol) until it turns white. (Should be 15 to 20 min.) My final tip for you? Start Having Fun. End of story, good luck.

164#: Please tell me your reply was a joke. If it wasn't, then you are worse than #33. And that was bad.

Ppl think he gay that probaly y no girl show up haha wat a dumb basterd jk

That guy must have not been straight.

Kick him in the balls.. if they're there

You should dump him! You deserve more than some loser who is looking for something better to come along.

um.. i hope you're not marrying him now, right?!

U need some good lovin.... Punch his face and shove a foot on his ass...

I hope to God you broke it off, since he clearly has no respect for you. And I really don't understand all the people telling the OP that he's done her a huge favour and now she can fix the relationship. The very fact that he would feel sorry for himself about not getting the opprtunity to leave the woman he said he'd marry shows he's a self-involved brat. If the relationship is dull, it's a mutual problem, and the people who usually complain of their life being boring are usually horribly dull and so spoilt and lazy that they expect an amazing life to fall into their laps with no effort. "I'm bored with you" should be followed by "so I'm ending this" not "so you have to work really hard to prove you are worthy of my attention, even though the only reason I haven't left is because no-one else will have me." Best of luck, OP.

Well at least you didn't marry straight away, it would've been much worse if you'd had kids. At least now you can move on. He's wasted enough of your time.