Being a step parent is tough. Real tough. I hope you thought it through. She might end up liking you or not. I hated my step dad all the 14years he was married to my mom. Good luck!

You deserve it, to be happy I mean. As long as you and your future husband are both happy then your step-daughter will just have to suck it up.

I don't know why everyone is assuming the soon to be step-daughter is a teenager/kid. She could well be an adult.

Why **** your life?

Losing a mother or father through divorce or death can be extremely difficult because life as the kids know it suddenly changes and throws their whole world off. It happens for different reasons too, mostly kids feel that their parent is trying to replace the other parent. Once she figures out that nobody can replace her mom, she should start to come around.

Oh for heck's sake, you're upset about THAT? You, OP, are a bridezilla. Stop freaking out. Your soon-to-be step daughter has every right to feel the way she does and be honest about it with her friends, and what are you doing eavesdropping and then coming onto a website like this to bitch about her? She's not a coworker, she's not a friend talking behind your back, she is going to be your DAUGHTER. It's not like she was rude to your face. Let her cope in her own way and seriously, stop making a big deal out of typical kid behavior. Yeah, that's right, TYPICAL behavior. Kids say "I hate you" to their parents, BIOLOGICAL parents, ALL. THE. TIME. And their parents don't go ape shit about a friggin dress and see their child as an enemy as you apparently have. So put on your big girl panties and start being a step mom, and maybe she will stop disrespecting you for the BITCH you've been.

Wow way to be a ****. Try talking to her about everything and address her concerns and fear as valid. Don't be a callous bitch and brush them to the side or say something like "she's in for a surprise." This is a huge adjustment for any child--you need to be kind and caring even if they're being rotten.

My mom passed away last year and my dad just got re-married yesterday. These are natural feelings. No one wants their parent to be replaced, but give her some time and show your support and I'm sure she'll warm up to you! Smile OP

I am glad you're actually going to be allowing your step children to attend the wedding. When my dad remarried, my new step mother insisted that none of his children were allowed to go because we would 'ruin her wedding.' After they were married, she was awful and abusive to my brothers and I in a verbal and physical level, and my dad did nothing about it. Please try to not do this to your new daughter, you have no idea how hard it can be on the receiving end of that. And I understand it is hard to be a step parent, but you need to realize that being a mom is exactly what you're signing up for when you marry a man who has kids.

Did she recently watch Cinderella? If so, that might explain it. Not all stepmothers are bad.