Why should he ruin his life over hers? He should just make the breakup easier on her.. If she chooses to commit suicide, that's her choice and you're not responsible for her actions.. If your stupid enough to keep going on with this relationship if you're unhappy, it will lead to marriage because she thinks you love her, and you will be the one planning on killing yourself.. >.

wow.. that sucks :( Just make sure that you really want to break up with her, because if you think you might be able to work it out, you should :) If not, then try to do it really carefully.. and maybe talk to an adult first.. ? But remember that if she was depressed before she met you, then it's not your fault if she gets depressed again.. she probably never got over it.

Do not let anyone tell you that you HAVE to stay with her or you HAVE to break up with her. All I can suggest is this: listen to your heart, no matter what it tells you. If it says 'break up with her,' I suggest you listen. You can't live your life miserably just because she has issues. If she truly wants to live, your being with her or not should not really affect her. #66 - I completely agree! Thank you!!

You have to decide if you are going to be a decent human being and help her through a tough time. Dumping her is not the right thing, but neither is stringing her along. Tell her you are feeling confused about the relationship and need time to think things through, but you should still hang out with her.

stfu #2. Her mental problems don't dictate your life. You can't be miserable with her forever, and if she kills herself it's not your fault. Mental illness is a disease. That would be like if you broke up with a woman that had cancer, and the cancer killed her and people blamed you. Nope. The illness did. I'd say try and help her to get the mental help and medication she needs before you do it though, and be as gentle as you can be when you do. FYL

All you right wing, cracked out dickshits who think he should break up with her read this: 1. ever thought her suicidal intentions were because she was single? 2. You tell the OP to do it, yet don't know what's in store. 3. And he may be her type. Why should he get her someone else? If he breaks up with her, she'll be dead the next day, and her parents will press charges on him for premeditational murder. I dont really say this stuff or act nice because I'm a cross sided freakazoid but seriously take time to consider this moment!Think before you post morons. and OP. keep the relationship. plan out a time to talk to her, find what she really wants, and you'll be fine.

A relationship with someone who doesn't want to be with her, particularly between two teenagers, is not going to cure her depression. It gives her something to fixate on, to ignore how she feels as a baseline. You were not the cause of her original depression, she needs to work on those original factors before she can be happy with herself. You can't really be happy with another person unless you're already happy with yourself. The relationship will become too much of her depending on you for her own emotional stability. It's not your responsibility to stay with her, and anything that she decides to do after you leave is not your fault in the least. I might talk to her parents about getting her counseling, but they should understand your position. Dating a clinically depressed person can be very difficult.

i definitely agree with #74. be gentle when you break up with her, but still do it; otherwise you're staying in a relationship out of guilt and it'll end up worse for the both of you. what do you think's more depressing-- being broken up with or being told that your partner stayed with you because he felt sorry for you?

been there! it sucks!!! get rid of her now!!! it's not your fault if she kills herself.

Don't do it!