oh you're one of those 1 your son is a grown ass man. he can help around the house and help with the children he helped create 2 that key was for emergencies so you shouldn't have any idea the locks were changed. It absolutely was not ok to try to just let yourself in their home unannounced you'll be lucky if you ever see them again because you sure don't deserve to

It's not babysitting when it's your kid(s). It's parenting. And chores are everyone's responsibility. Not women's. And days off are not restricted to relaxing and having fun. They're also for getting things done. That's called being a responsible adult. But first and foremost, it's not your place to dictate how other adults, or their spouses, live their lives. How dare you? YDI.