Wow. I see a lot of jealous, angry people. I also see more than a few people who are clearly a bit snobby about colleges. The thing is, yes it was probably a bit shortsighted to trash the acceptance letters without talking to your mother or exploring other options. However, there's nothing wrong with the fact that you didn't want to burden your family. You certainly don't deserve her being such a beast! Tell her about the acceptance letters. Even without the papers, you should still be in their systems as accepted, right?

dumbfuck how'd you even get into ivy league schools?

dont listen to them, you did the sweetest thing eveer

So tell her, double ******.

ozymandias, you are really douchebaggy. idk what to say to this. YDI for not even showing your mom that you got in, but whatever. if your smart you'll still do ok. and i think parents should pay for college, i mean, what 18 year old affords 40000 a year? my sister got a full ride to a prestigious school so thank goodness my parents will have some money for me.

she's a bitch and you're stupid for not wanting better for yourself. when you got that great career, you couldve paid her back.

If you made it into the top 10 and your mom wanted to call you dumb, she should have said "The other 90 people must have been really dumb."

YOU THREW THEM AWAY! you're crazy (no offense) but why the better college, the better education, the better work, the better your pay is! i would never have done that.

I think your mom would have still payed for them even if the college was extremely expensive,there are things called student loans and scholarships.Sooo thats pretty much your fault.

My girlfriend, who is from a blue collar background, went to an Ivy League school on financial aid/ working the entire time she was there. She met a lot of interesting people and made lifelong friends, despite some pressure from her mother to quit because they didn't think they could afford the $3,000 pa contribution from them the college insisted on. She worked as a paralegal for a couple of years, then a top 5 law school, making law review, also on financial aid. Law school was full of jerks.She graduated law school with $80k in debt, and after clerking went to a top law firm, which she hated. But because it paid over 150K a year, by being she was able to pay off her debt in 18 months, and once she saved some money she was able to do the public interest work she wanted (she could not have afforded to go straight into public interest work with her debt. These things can be managed if you take the long view and are willing to put up with inconvenience. But it is not accurate to imagine you have to pay everything up front or the debt has to be a millstone around your neck for the rest of your life. But her ability to get into the law firm, was based on having gone to the right law school, which was based to a certain extent on where she went to school.