But then why would she get a restraining order

I had something like that happen once, actually. This female friend of mine was calling me a bit too much, and just before I was going to ask her to tone it down, I got a call from my university. Apparently she'd called them and told them I was stalking her. We lived several states apart! Later she moved to my state and made friends with some of my friends. They came to me and told me she was pretty psycho.

shit happens when ur drunk I suppose

I've seen FMLs to this effect in the past. It happened as neighbors that they hadn't met ("He drives past my house 20 times a week" ...because that's how he gets to his house) or as an intersection in the daily routines of two complete strangers.

stalker

that's really scary!! slap her!

Just because you've never met her doesn't mean you weren't stalking her. I know your type, you get one look at a pretty girl and you're obsessed, trying to meet her at every corner, photoshopping your kids. You don't know who she is, but you've got to have her. NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES. (i kid, i kid, haha)

Well, at least it'll be easy to comply with the order.. :/

I like how you tell us you've never met this girl, but conveniently leave out the fact that you've been peering through her windows, going through her trash, calling her up and breathing heavily into the phone etc

If nothing else, you have a chance to appear in court to defend yourself from a restraining order. Cops investigate claims before it even makes it to that level. You can't get blindsided by one without knowing what is going on. The only big exception to that rule is that temporary restraining orders can be placed for the interim before the trial during the investigation, but even those are rare. My aunt was abused by her husband for years and when she finally feared for her life enough to leave, she couldn't get a restraining order against him because there wasn't "enough" proof. She didn't get a rape kit to prove he was raping her (therefore it could've been consensual) and her broken ribs fell into a he said-she said. His claims that she was just after his money (because he was the breadwinner while she raised their kids) were moving enough that the court wouldn't issue one. She had to stay in a women's shelter for three weeks because it was the only way to be safe from him. If a situation like that doesn't get you a restraining order, how realistic do you think it is for someone who you've "never met"? It's utter bullshit. People like you erode confidence in our justice system when it comes to domestic abuse. So people (like many of the commenters) mistakenly believe it is easy to get them and men are constantly wronged by the system. The fact of the matter is, that the system is grossly imbalanced in the other direction and women die because of it.