Never opened my mouth. I typed it. And, yes, I realize that's what she's saying. But it's also criticizing for people who do have sex that soon to say everybody else has hang-ups about it. Some people just don't want to be hurt like that, if the relationship fails. If someone wants to have sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend, then they can. There aren't time limits set on when you should, it depends on the individuals. People tend to criticize people who jump into it too fast, but likewise, people are criticized for not having sex sooner. The way she says it makes it seem like if you don't have sex after a couple months, you've got a strange hang-up about it.

^ this. thank you.

Yes, the amount of times I've emphasized I couldn't care less what people's personal views on waiting are IS kind of vague and I can see how you would miss that crosses. It's not prudish if you want to wait, but it is if you think everyone should and are going to voice this opinion rudely if they don't.

Why has this become a huge consuming argument? All you're saying is they can have sex if they want to. All everybody else is saying is that although they can, they probably shouldn't. That can be taken as judgmental, and it's true that they shouldn't judge circumstances they don't know anything about. However, I no longer see what this has to do with the FML. It's more about the guy being creepy and wanting to know what she'd look like pregnant than anything having to do with sex. I get it, sex is fun, but that really isn't the point. They can do it, people shouldn't judge, but people shouldn't be judged for not doing it. And I'm sorry, but I can't tell through the internet if you're being sarcastic or not. :)

Sorry, don't want to get attacked for forgetting this part. As far as I've seen, no one has rudely tried to force beliefs about sex on anybody. Yes, that's wrong, but I haven't seen it done on this FML. So why is this such a large, ongoing argument?

It's ongoing because people keep responding to my comments as though they say something they don't, and saying I'm criticizing people who choose to wait, when I'm only pointing out it's prudish to think your personal beliefs about sex should apply to everyone. And of the un-moderated comments, comments along the lines of "It's a little thing called morals and self respect. You don't go hopping into bed with everyone you happen to date for more then a week... Then again, society and it's lack of morals are a little more excepting of single parents and deadbeats now a days." "Don't date (and **** after already three weeks) freaks. YDI" both rudely imply others should have the same beliefs as them.

Seriously! I think that's what makes it an FML...everyone else seems to think that the boyfriend is just innocently introducing the OP to the consequences of sex and that there's nothing wrong or bizarre with what he did (or even worse, that he's now entitled to get her to bear his seed because she slept with him. In fact, he's not entitled to anything; as Tori Amos put it, "So you can make me cum / That doesn't make you Jesus"). On the bright side, these people are so oblivious to what constitutes creepy behavior that maybe they'll get murdered by some psychotic acquaintance and we'll soon be rid of them forever! ("You want me to climb into the back of your van? Sure!! I know we just met, but it's the least I can do since you let me look at your collection of feral kitten skulls!")

The comments section is for that exactly. We'll never agree so save your own breath and shut it.