pets are awesome, but I think maybe you need to be alone for a while. it's possible you might be coming across as desperate. when you are happy and confident with who you are, the right guy will probably end up in your path.

You should probably stick with fish. Anything with legs or wings will likely run away or fly away from you. If men flee from you, why wouldn't other animals? Don't let your fish get near the toilet. They might jump instead of learning to say, "It's not you, it's me."

Nobody can force someone else to love or even like them. Those kind of relationships are always voluntary on both sides. Both people have to be compatible for it to work… If you are having consistent relationship failures there are a couple possibilities that come to mind. Either you have a serious mismatch in how you initially present yourself and how you actually are or you are fishing in the wrong place. Many people present themselves as quite different than who they actually are, often in ways that are completely obvious once you meet them. That always leads to disappointment on both sides. The other thing is that it matters what your expectations are - To expect the other person to be tall, young, handsome, and have a great job is unrealistic unless you are at the top end of your dating class too. Take a careful look at your own expectations and decide if you are unnecessarily limiting your potential dating pool to people who might not look at you twice… For men and for women there are a lot of factors that go into desirability and being compatible - personality, values, looks, intelligence, etc. Almost no one has every desirable trait to the max, but many people have a good balance and are compatible… Finally desperation and being a “drama queen” are very negative traits and if those are sensed most people will run for the hills. Learn to take it slow and build a relationship instead of expecting to jump right in.

Good for you! It’s always good to focus on yourself

This won't be popular today, but sleeping with someone before being married changes the relationship. At least wait a while. Guys are all looking for an easy hookup. If that's what they expect and get then they will leave right after. This doesn't solve all relationship problems but if you want a lasting relationship you both need to be in the mindset of finding lasting relationships. Sorry this keeps happening to you. I wish the best for you. You are worthy of a relationship.