Bring your kids to the Christmas party anyways. Things a 3 year old says outloud brings so much laugher in Christmas setting There is always this annoying family member that is such a control freak . It is more likely everyone else didn't know what the family member said. Threaten that snotty member that there is always the kids that has the input which nursing homes to stick the old ones into. (That is if your kids doesn't belong on Nanny 911 shows)

Idiot relatives...

So parent your shitty kids better

As a person who hates kids with a burning passion, I'd never tell my family that they couldn't bring their children. Though I would mention that maybe they needed to learn how to control tantrums. My aunt takes care of her grandson and granddaughter. they came to Christmas dinner last week. And yes they are buck wild. But why would I not want them around? they're family. Also, if you do have to remove the kid from the situation, it's a lesson for the kid. "hey I acted up, and I couldn't stay and be around family. I had to leave and I got into trouble." Granted my mom and dad just took me outside and scolded me and sometimes I got a spanking. But I learned to behave myself when at family gatherings.

anxiety attacks over a kid's tantrum. Bah humbug. They ought to get over themselves.

Go anyway. If they don't like it, screw 'em! It's Christmas.

People and new parents thinks their kids can do whatever they want, it was a time were kids behave and patents do what parents are supposed to do, I'm 46 my daughter 17 and he'll will broken over her head of she don't behave correct, that was at the age of 12 months and until today, and no I'm not mean just clear, I love when I see mom's around and kids running everyones days, crying, screaming, temper tantrums , and parents just looking like sorry I can't control the little monster who is with me, then before complaint here, teach and educate your kids!

People and new parents thinks their kids can do whatever they want, it was a time were kids behave and parents do what parents are supposed to do, I'm 46 my daughter 17 and he'll will broken over her head if she don't behave correct, that was at the age of 12 months and until today, and no I'm not mean just clear, I love when I see mom's around and kids ruining everyones days, crying, screaming, temper tantrums , and parents just looking like sorry I can't control the little monster who is with me, then before complaint here, teach and educate your kids!, it's no nice at all, listen to the new generation incapable to behave child's,

It's not about the fits; it's about how they're handled. If my 3-year-old starts to get whiny, I ask her if she wants to be in trouble and she usually stops. If she doesn't, she goes straight into solitary confinement for a few minutes. No one has to listen to her fit, she learns that throwing fits gets her no attention, and she calms down much more quickly. If you indulge their fits or try to ignore the white elephant in the room, I completely agree with your family. No one wants to listen to little terrors. You need to stay firm on the rules and consequences no matter which situation you're in. (And if you plan to do this, call your family and explain. They'll probably be down with this plan.)

Gosh, I wonder what happened last year? What do you think is more likely: the entire family is a bunch of jerks, or OP is one of "those" parents that lets their kids run wild. We all know there are plenty of people like that.