Never cross the streams

By caughttt - 10/02/2010 02:52 - United States

Today, I drove my ex-boyfriend home from dropping his car at the garage for new tires. On the way, I drove past my house where my boyfriend was sitting in the driveway ready to surprise me. My boyfriend watched us drive by. FML
I agree, your life sucks 11 258
You deserved it 43 681

Same thing different taste

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Flutist 3

Not that your boyfriend has a right to know your every move, but this could have been prevented if you simply communicated with him. It is as simple as, "Hey honey I still talk with Ex and he needs someone to give him a ride..." Usually if you are hanging out with an ex, the current boyfriend likes a heads up. Why you would hide this I don't know. But for future reference say something to the person you are with then there won't be mistakes/assumptions made.

Why are you with your ex-boyfriend in the first place? I want an explanation too! >8| YDI

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ozymandias_fml 0

....so? I fail to find a problem ANYWHERE in this FML.

Maybe she couldn't wave because she drove by really fast. Also, maybe she wanted to keep her eyes on the road.

shoguu 0

not an fml. even if the boyfriend got upset, there's an easy and simple explanation with plenty of proof to back it up.

More like FHL. I can't stand bitches like you that can't let the past be the past and be rid of an ex. If you keep in contact with your significant other knowing, that's one thing. But hanging out with your ex without your current boyfriend knowing is something totally different. Your username "caughttt" just cements the fact that you knew you were doing something wrong. Also, the only people that agreed "your life sucks" are most likely trifling ass bitches as well. YFDI.

mshafty 0

^THIS^ Seriously how are people like kaizoku and wow18 so ardently defending this girl! She sneaks around with her EX. Even if she isn't cheating (which she probably is), this is still pretty damn inconsiderate to her BF. Also she is a total idiot. Instead of stopping and clearing everything up with her BF, she sped away. If I was in her BF's shoes my first thought would be she was cheating. A little advice to the women on here. I would say 98% of guys do not want their GF hanging out with their EX. No guy likes the idea of his girl spending time with a guy who used bang her!

Where did it say that she sped up? and where did you get the idea that, "she probably is" cheating on him? I think there is more of a problem in your head than in this situation. If she is driving at 50 or up then it is a little hard to make a quick stop. Your last line about no man liking.... That's another problem in it self. If a woman is not doing anything wrong like hooking up with the guy then that man shouldn't have a problem with it. If a lot of men have this issue then society as a whole needs to put an end to it and solve it rather than giving into the sickness. A lot of men once had a problem with women working outside the home, now imagine if people just accepted that rather than try to solve the problem. Same thing with slavery, you have to change people's way of thinking when it's in the wrong.

mshafty 0

I have seen the light!! We have abolished slavery, given women equal rights, and have even given homosexuals the right to wed (in certain states)! Now it is time to take on the greatest injustice this country has faced! "Men who dislike it when their GF's hangout with their ex boyfriends". These men are ignorant and evil and we must start a grand campaign to rid them of this terrible sickness. Schools, Politicians and the media must unite together to educate these men that is perfectly fine for a girlfriend to sneak around their BF's back with their EX boyfriend. They must learn that its perfectly acceptable for their girlfriends to never communicate or consider their feelings. These poor girlfriends have suffered too much and it is time for this nation to change! Rise up members of FML and unite to rid these men of their terrible sickness.

hahaha that was pretty funny, i'll give you that. BUT, my point was when someone is in the wrong, you don't feed that person more, you correct him/her. It is wrong for a man or woman to get mad and not trust their SO if they see them with someone of the opposite sex, even if it is an ex. I'm not supporting sneaking around her bf but you people are adding on way too much to the story. A girl was just giving her ex boyfriend a ride to his house because his car was in the garage. Her current bf happened to see her when she was driving her ex to his house. NOTHING ELSE HAPPENED! All the girl needs to do is tell her bf what was up and he should say, "oh okay that's fine." If he gets mad at her for this then the problem is with him not her.

I heard she was giving him road head. While she was driving. Really.

Yeh and i herd the current bf wasn't at her house to surprise her but was actually hooking up with her roommate.

lol, with the roommate thing, point made. I could see how irrational it sounds

ndiesal 0

OP has a right to be friends with her ex, and help her ex with the situation that he's in. On the other hand, the boyfriend has a right to be a bit skeptical about what's going on. I guess for him, it would depend on how much he trusts her. Where the OP went wrong was not communicating with her boyfriend about this. Many people above me said that communication is vital, and that's absolutely true. And I believe the communication needed to happen BEFORE she gave the ex a ride. Doing it beforehand is the most sincere, straightforward way to tell your boyfriend, and it provides for the best chance that he will be cool with it, and trust that nothing bad will happen. Also, I believe it would make the OP less likely to do something wrong. My girlfriend is also good friends with one of her ex's, and has hung out with him a few times. However, she always told me up-front. At first I was a bit skeptical, but I trusted her enough that I eventually stopped worrying about it. It's all about communication - it didn't happen - so YDI.

FCChelsea 3

You were doing MORE than dropping off the car with a name such as "caughttt." YDI

hummingbug 2

OP: Why didn't you stop and accept his surprise? Shoot, I mean it might be awkward for your ex but you not stopping, I'm assuming, only offended your boyfriend and also showed your ex that he means more than your boyfriend by "choosing him", even if you didn't intend to. Good luck to you. Men are jealous people and it's not always a bad thing to be jealous, but it's something to consider when you drive around your ex without consulting your current bf. Learn from this OP.

I agree with ^85^. You not communicating with you bf about helping your ex was your bad. Swap the rolls, he zooms by with his ex when you go to suprise him. How do you feel about the ex and your spoiled suprise? I know I'd be wondering what's going on? If your trying to be covert about the ex then it makes the wondering worse. Communication and Honesty is where it's at.

rockstatic 0

I am good friends with my ex too, but you need to be clear with your current SO whenever you're seeing your ex for any reason. (If you don't, things like this happen.)

That's when you turn around, pull up in the drive way, get out, and talk to you boyfriend. Begin with a friendly, normal conversation and then invite him to come with you guys. I agree with #95, you know how your boyfriend feels when it comes to your ex, you need to be clear about these things.