I completely feel your pain. My mother finally agreed to taking me to therapy as long as I "didn't talk about her". I do talk about her of course because that's the reason I need therapy in the first place, she's ridiculous. And of course it's all confidential.

My mother is the exact same way. Sorry you have to deal with that OP :(

Just stare directly in her eyes and say "Yes I did, maybe if you behaved like an actual mother, this would not of happened"

Tell her straight up. "Yes. I am talking shit about you to the therapist" I mean what is she gonna do?

Dont feel bad, my dad is the same way, just hold on. You can be strong.

Tell the therapist, get people involved.

You need to cut ties with your mother for a little while until you have the courage to stand up to her and the strength not to feel affected by her overbearing controlling ways. And when you have worked through a lot of stuff you can slowly allow her back into your life. But the reality is that people like that never change. So to survive bring in her company. You need to change. And become more confident and resilient. Good luck.

I feel your pain OP. I grew up with this same crap.

omg... my mother acts litteraly the same way.

Dude, my bitch of a mom does the exact same shit... Like when I had to reveal to my therapist that I cut, now she blames me for every sharp object that goes missing...