Self-esteem boost

By Anonymous - 23/01/2010 00:10 - United States

Today, I have been dating an incredibly gorgeous woman. She had a poor self image and after the longest time, I finally convinced her to seek counselling to help her self esteem. It worked. So well in fact that she just broke up with me because she "finally realized she could do so much better" FML
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decaturboizone6 0

that really does suck but at least you know you helped someone in the process

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relyo 0

Thatll teach you. Next time you get a gorgeous woman, don't ruin it by letting her realize she can do better. YDI

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damnrosi 0

although I do hope she thanked him for his help and support and will remain friends with him

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Fminetoo 0

And maybe letting him get a quickie in every now and then......

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PentiumBawls8 0

Yeah most women with low self asteem usually settle for just about anybody even when they sometimes don't realize that they are putting on a facade. But reading this leads me to believe that the girl is a nacissistic bitch who bases soley on looks. It's like taking medicine to become more ignorant. oh well.

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Newbie21 1

u can find someone better

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dan13mey 0

YDI for forcing your girl to get counciling.

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davidhasmorefun 0

this is why you keep the girl's self esteem low. that's what you get for being the nice guy. time for me to meet her and ruin her therapy. lol

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DeathShad0 1

Sounds like you may have dodged a bullet there.

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wow18 3

It was nice of the op to try to help this girl out but she did nothing wrong and his life does suck though. I've had friends who're so pretty and have a lot to offer but end up with loser guys. When i say loser i'm not talking about just the looks. The guys are below their league when it comes to looks, style, education, personality etc. These girls always think the guy they're with is so much better than them and do what ever he wants and likes to please the guy. They never realize that they're like a trophy to the guy. Especially when the guy is not attractive at all. He sometimes might even treat the girl really good but that's just because she's the hottest girl he can ever get. My best friend(who is super pretty and fun) is dating this guy who is good looking but he dropped out of college after his first yr, has a crappy job and future, and worse of all bosses her around all the time. Every time i ask her if she wants to hang out, she always replies with, i'll have to check with my bf to see if it's okay with him. He is super controlling and over protective and i tell her, she's not in a healthy relationship but she feels like he's so much better than her and she should just be happy that a guy like him even likes her. So now if she took counseling and realized she was too good for him and can do far better, i would be so happy for her. That wouldn't be shallow!

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Anteezy 7

She says she is happy with him, who are you to judge.

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wow18 3

The guy does not allow her to go anywhere without him unless its to college or work. He starts a fight with her every time she tries to talk about the problems in their relationship and says "we don't have to talk about everything." She's not in a healthy relationship and i can easily see that(so can her brother, mom and all her other friends). If a person is abusive towards my friend, then I'm not ok with that. She has self-esteem issues and can't see that. I told her what she would say to me if i was dating someone like that and her response, "well he's such a great guy and so much better than me." She's not seeing the man he actually is.

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french9919 0

wow18, what makes you believe that a persons appearance would qualify them to be better than another. Really how vain are you to even believe that. Its sad that people would use physical appearance to judge whether they are better than someone or not. In the end for a relationship all that matters is that 1) the relationship is healthy, 2) that both parties are happy. I am not saying physical attraction is not an important part of a relationship since it does need to exist but the thing was she engaged in a relationship already so regardless there was some physical attraction to begin with. Granted we do not know the full circumstances other than what was stated but like everything on these boards they need to be taken with a grain of salt. But assuming this guy is a normal guy, he cared enough to encourage to seek therapy how many "jerks" or "assholes" try to help there girlfriends. Now granted we don't know anything about her but based off of what was told it was a pretty cold thing to do although I am certain there is more to the story.

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Beagle96 0

yea Shes a total bitch and shallow. you deserve better. don't fret about it

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wow18 3

actually no. She's the one who deserves better and went and got better(or is looking for it). This girl just broke up with a guy she was dating because she realized he wasn't what she actually wants. There is nothing wrong with that. If the girl cheated on him because she can do better but stayed with him just so she doesn't hurt his feelings then that would make her a bitch.

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damnrosi 0

thank you wow18! at least someone one on here makes some sense and isn't a sexist prick!

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sarkasmos 0

Maybe, but what about him? She said she could do better. That's just kind of a slap in the face. She could've probably just said she wants to break up. The way the OP writes, it sounds like she just basically said he sucked. And that he was a loser. Even though he tried to help her. And that sounds a little bitchy to me.... It doesn't sound like he manipulated her, and was just trying to honestly help her.

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wow18 3

Well maybe he kept asking her what the reason is over and over and wasn't accepting the breakup so she had to say that, or maybe she told someone else this reason and that person ended up telling him. Also maybe the counseling she was receiving convinced her that she could do better and so she told him about all the help she got from her counselor and the counselor made her realize this. Then she broke up with him. It doesn't say that she told him that she could do so much better. Also you need to realize that a person does have to have a little bit of physical attraction to have an intimate relationship. She can still be really good friends with the op, but that doesn't mean that she should force herself to be in an intimate relationship with a man that she doesn't want to be with.

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sarkasmos 0

I guess there's just too many unknowns to be sure. and I just kinda assumed she said it since she put it into quotes, I'm not sure. Oh and I totally agree with you that physical attraction needs to be a part of the relationship. It's just when it BECOMES the relationship that it gets out of hand. I just kind of feel sorry for the guy in a way. It's like trying to help someone and then it like bites you in the ass.

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funkyfreshpanda 0

@wow18, You really are pulling a lot of "maybes." And she has all the reason to break up with him but only if she has a reason. Saying she "could do so much better" after the guy goes out with her and suggests counseling for her is kind of a bitch move. Yes, the OP maybe did not write those reasons in this post but using those words still show what kind of woman she is. Like sarkasmos said, the man sounds like he has a little bit of the same issues and was being very nice to her feelings before she broke up with him. I really don't see many guys doing that sort of thing nowadays. To the OP, she was a complete bitch and you should find someone better than that. Don't let people like her turn you into a prick.

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