Me too, a very good one.

Yes abstinence is the safest route but let us join the real world and realise that not everybody is going to choose that route. Hence proper sex education. Giving the facts about STIs, pregnancy AND proper methods of birth control as well besides abstinence that can be used for protection. And the proper facts about which birth control will protect you from said STIs and which will not and which are best to use for protection against pregnancies etc. Also failure rates as well, true failure rates. And on top of that education about options if you contract a disease or get pregnant. You know, complete education rather than saying don't do it and that is it. Teaching for the real world not the hypothetical wishful thinking world.

Your point is overshadowed by your judgment of those of us who didn't have a problem having responsible sex, stating that we're just little horndogs who blame others for the consequences of our choices. So, shame on you. Aaaaaaaand she has NO business pushing her personal beliefs onto her students. It's her responsibility to educate them about sex, pregnancy, their bodies, and contraception, NOT try to scare or guilt them into following her preferred lifestyle.

OP may or may be not sexually active, may or may be not a ****. The problem is not (at least at this point or for the FML) OP's sexual life. It is the teacher disrespecting a student and not teaching sex ed correctly. It has nothing to do with being abstinent or a ****.

52 - Abstinence is the only way to completely, 100% assure that you will not get pregnant (or get someone pregnant), or get an STD. HOWEVER, abstinence-based education is a complete and utter failure. People have sex, and it is completely not up to anyone else to call them names for doing so. The idea of not having sex before marriage or whatever is an entirely puritanical belief that stems largely from religion and from an era when there WAS no effective way to prevent STDs and pregnancy. I'm more than old enough to be married, and yet I never, ever want to have kids or get pregnant. In your books, that means I should abstain from sex forever? **** that. I'm a responsible adult on birth control in a long-term relationship with someone I love. A healthy sex life is part of a normal relationship, and having safe sex even with multiple partners does not make you a ****. Time to join the century we live in.

As long as is safe sex, right? Oh no, I know she's banging the whole football team, but she's on birth control, so she's not a ****. Safe sex with a monogamous partner doesn't make you a ****, shopping around for the Dick of the day, protection or not, is pretty much the definition of the word.

Tell your parents, pissed off parents get more fone than a complaining student. Get some pamphlets from a planned parenthood and put them in the bathrooms to help prevent someone getting knocked up.

Are you aware that teens who have abstinence only have *higher* rates of STIs and pregnancy? They start sooner, have more partners, and tend to do non-intercourse activities, thinking it's not sex (the term "Saddlebacking", i.e., kids having anal sex to preserve their virginities) sprung from the abstinence-only and purity movements. Teens who get comprehensive sex education begin sexual activity later, have fewer partners, and tend to have fewer pregnancies and STIs. And let's stop ****-shaming. If we're not going to insult a guy who has multiple partners, we shouldn't insult a woman who has multiple partners. And some women are ****-shamed merely for owning their sexuality. Or knowing about the effectiveness of contraceptives.

57, I never said there shouldn't be education about all the other things you said, but rather that people should still be taught that abstinence is the proper choice. Yes informing about all those other things is important for the day when they do finally have sex, but that can all be done while still telling them that at the end of the day waiting will always be the wisest method. Yes talk about contraceptives, STIs, pregnancy, etc. while explaining that being abstinent is the best choice. Yes explain all the things you can do to protect yourself when you have sex, but explain it in a way where you're telling them that when they do that there are no guarantees. If they choose to have sex yes they should use contraceptives, but they still won't be entirely safe. Any proper sex education should mention that. Having that attitude of "oh they're just going to do it anyway so we shouldn't even tell them not to" is ridiculous, because actually many would choose not to if it wasn't taught so assumptive that they will. No matter what you teach some will not listen. That doesn't mean you shouldn't even try though. That would be like saying because some choose to take illegal drugs that can be downright dangerous then we shouldn't even try to tell them not to. Again, ridiculous. Yes some will choose to do it anyway, but frankly even if you can just save a few, as far as I'm concerned you did well. 58, I'm just telling it like it is that the real reason many have a problem with teaching abstinence isn't because they seriously believe that's a bad choice, but rather that they don't like the idea. And yes, people who have sex when they are too young and face consequences love to find others to blame. That's true for all kinds of things, not just sex. It's human nature to try and find someone else to blame. If you have sex when you're a teenage or whenever you're taking a risk and whatever consequences you face are your fault. And the only reason you have a problem with her supposedly pushing her personal beliefs is because you yourself don't agree. If her personal beliefs are that having sex young as long as you're safe is no big deal she would be pushing her personal beliefs just as much if she were teaching that view. 60, I agree that was a disrespectful statement and the teacher had no right to say such a thing. I even did say in my first comment that was out of line. However, by starting the post calling the teacher a "psycho abstinence only teacher" the OP makes their view of the teacher's beliefs quite clear, that believing abstinence is the best choice is crazy. Many may choose not to do it, but that doesn't mean they're right to not listen. 72, In my original comment I said they should wait at least until they're ready for the responsibility. I wasn't saying it definitely had to be until marriage (although if one can do so that's not bad either). That means being at an age where you feel confident that if you would get pregnant or whatever you'd be willing to accept the responsibility even if it was unplanned. I assume you are at that age from what you're saying, so while you may not want kids, if you are ready to accept and take responsibility if you do end up getting pregnant anyway, then yes it's no big deal that you're sexually active. But if you were actually someone who would never be willing to accept the responsibility should you then abstain forever? Actually yes. Whether you start at 13 or 40 that's always a risk you're taking. Again, I assume you are willing to accept that as a possible consequence, but if by chance you weren't, then no you shouldn't have sex. Anyone who is unwilling to accept the possible consequences has no business having sex. I'm not afraid to say that. 93, I never said she was a **** and again I agree the teacher was wrong to say such a thing. However, if she is having sex she's taking a risk regardless. The concept of safe sex is something many don't truly grasp. It's only "safe" to a certain degree. It's like "safe" driving. You can be as careful and responsible as you want while behind the wheel, but that can never guarantee you won't get into an accident. 162, I don't know where you get those statistics, but they're completely made up. Teen sex and pregnancy saw it's greatest increases around the times sex education that was focused on teaching "safe" sex was more common. Yes a lot of kids have sex regardless, but as I said earlier it's ridiculous to act like that means kids shouldn't even be told that waiting at least until they're at a certain age is the best choice. Some will listen and some won't. Even when kids are taught the safe sex method many don't listen and don't use proper contraceptives and whatnot. That's been a problem for years. Plus, a lot of the stuff you're referring to was never properly taught in sex education. When I went through it we were told about contraceptive use and whatnot, but things like anal sex and whatnot were never discussed. So that same problem you're alluding to I could have faced as well had I chose to have sex as a teen. Really that sort of thing is just a problem with sex education in general. Whether it's focused on waiting or on using protection many things don't get discussed properly. As I said before it is very possible to teach kids to be abstinent while still explaining what various contraceptives are used for. It just needs to be done in a way where kids understand that yes those methods of protection are out there if they choose to have sex, but they have to realize those things will never keep them entirely safe and they are still taking a risk. Safe sex education typically puts so much focus on contraceptives being so important that they fail to properly address the risks that are still being taken.