In all fairness, she clearly had a phone with her and didn't even bother to say "hey mom, now that I'm in the hospital, would you mind sending a message to my boyfriend?" if she couldn't do it herself. I mean, come on. It's not like she was in a sudden coma for three days. It's like these people who get mad about getting fired because they skipped a week of work without bothering to even call. This happened to a guy I worked with long ago. His sister died in a car crash so he disappeared for a few days. It's not unreasonable to take time off of work or cancel dates, but it IS unreasonable to keep everyone in the dark about it and then bitch about it when someone notices how much of a dick you are for taking off.

Your argument makes sense except for two things: 1) Appendicitis hurts. A lot. So you're usually thinking about the pain in your stomach more than about any dates. 2) She was probably knocked out for emergency surgery the second she got to the hospital. And usually in emergencies normal social rules don't really apply. However the mother did overreact, but considering the emotional stress she was probably under her response is completely understandable.

It's pretty f'd up that her family obviously knew she was sick and didn't even bother to try to let you know what was going on. Whether they knew you had a date planned or not, they should have enough common courtesy to let their daughter's boyfriend know that she's in the hospital. I understand your frustration completely. Her mom was being a douche. She was understandably stressed, but the least she could do after receiving the message from you would be to explain the situation to you rather than make you feel like a dick.

Umm why would your first response be to break up? You obviously don't want to be with her if you're threatening her with that. She deserves better. You're a douche. As for #252, appendicitis is not something that develops over time. It is a freaking EMERGENCY. They were worried about the health of their daughter and her safety. Sorry, she's more important than texting her freaking boyfriend to make sure he knows. If he cared, he would have called to see why she didn't show up rather than threatening to dump her.

It sucks that no one told you, and you were expecting her for a date. However, your first response should be to ask why, not to threaten to break up, unless there had been a pattern of blowing you off. Since you made no attempt to find out what happened before blowing up at her and threaten breaking up, her mother was well within her boundaries to send what she did. You know why you felt like an ass? Because you were one. Maybe if you apologize profusely and respond better the next time, you can still mend it, though.

@ #2 judging you're name (cause you're apparently a girl for what you're comment said, are you emo? I'm just taking a guess, yes?

Or maybe goth?

what a douche.

wow! haha shme. i hope she doesnt turn up to any more dates! u sound like an @r$e!! y didnt u ask y she was l8 first???

That bitch told YOU to shut the **** up? Beat her ass, teach her some manners.