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Tumblr is a dangerous device
I'm willing to bet $100 that they go on tumblr. If they really feel that way, then they should consider losing weight by diet and exercise.
The idea of the fat/body acceptance is good, but in reality...
SJWS at it again
Hmmm, I'm against fat shaming No other comments have mentioned it yet, but so many people have medical and other serious reasons why it makes it so much harder to lose weight- count yourselves lucky that your weight loss efforts work Depending on where you are this may apply, it is Australia wide. In terms of workplace behaviour, your offended college has given you the first warning that they find your conversation offensive ( regardless of the nature of the topic), now if you do it again, they go to HR or a lawyer- they have a solid case for workplace harassment. (super bummed this is my second *serious tone reply in as many weeks FML)
Since as far as we know the OP's discussion did not involve or even mention the offended party, they have a piss poor case of harassment since nothing was directed at them.
This sounds dystopian and sad. You made me feel glad I don't live in Australia :/
#24 in Australia you are not correct, if your discussion is overheard and offends a coworker, and then they tell you it offends them, that was your last chance. Intent is irrelevant in harassment.
So if I tell you that speaking in general makes me upset, you must remain silent for the rest of your life?
In return, wouldn't eavesdropping be considered just as offensive. I don't doub5lt that there is a work harassment law, but I highly doubt a person can label something offensive without good reasoning and a HR / lawyer would actually take it seriously. That would be an easy way to manipulate people of people can just go "that offends me" and have the topic banned in the workplace. Harassment and finding something offensive are two very different things. If I was a boss and I found out one of my employees used this law in a way that without a doubt seems unnecessary I'd probably fire them for causing unnecessary drama/conflict in the workplace. Unless the comment was aimed at the offended, they should have no right to hold the topic over.. the speaker. they should be doing their job and not listening on other people's conversations.
I'm against bullying/shaming but if OP wasn't being malicious or directing at anyone, it's not their fault someone within earshot was offended. Being offended is a choice. Other ppl's ideas or beliefs is their business, not yours
Blame Tumblr for making everyone think they should be coddled and treated like a special snowflake regardless of how flawed they are.
Wow, I get that you weren't trying to shame anyone, OP, but your reaction is pretty ******* rude. It's really obvious that there are a lot of people for whom weight/weight loss/dieting are really difficult subjects... loads of people struggle with this stuff, from people who've spent their whole life beating themselves up for being (as they perceive it) too fat, to people who've been bullied or abused by others over their weight, to people who have recovered or are recovering from eating disorders, to people who are dieting or taking up sport and feel like they're not doing well enough, etc. If you're gonna discuss this stuff publicly then you've got to expect that sometimes people will find it upsetting. The respectful thing to do is to apologise and change the subject, not bitch about them on the internet.
I'm an incredibly liberal person and don't tolerate bullying or shaming of any kind, but this is just ridiculous. OP posted this because it is a legitimate FML and issue. She doesn't need to apologize, the co-worker needs to stop being so sensitive. We are allowed to discuss our lives, health, and even just issues in general, regardless of how sensitive they are because it's how we learn and engage. Censorship is not a good thing, it hinders the flow of information and ideas. I may disagree with what you say, but I would never restrict your right to say it and expect an apology. I'm sorry, but if you get offended because people are discussing participating, achieving or having something that you yourself would or cannot do, that's your problem. It's like talking about your puppy and then someone getting upset because they don't and/or can't have a puppy themselves. It's whining, grow up, not everything is fair, welcome to the real world.
No. You are allowed to discuss yourself with a co-worker about a completely normal and harmless subject without being told you're rude or insensitive. OP wasn't discussing anything improper. The co-worker was listening in on someone else's conversation and is so self centered that they somehow made it about themselves and decided to be offended. That would be like me, who is extremely short, getting offended because some people were talking about how long their legs were. And I can't change being short at all. Yes, weight loss can be difficult for some people. However, if they're getting offended about a conversation that had absolutely nothing to do with them, that is their oroblem. The world is not supposed to mold itself to your wants. You learn to live in it and if you have personal issues, you do something about it. You are your own responsibility. Not mine, not your neighbor's, not anyone else. Yours.
It wasn't even her conversation to begin with. She should mind her business and stop overreacting to things she hears in passing (possibly only partial bits even ). This coming forming from a former "fatty girl". I lost 122 lbs 2.5 years ago. I would understand if you said it to our about her, but you say you were talking to someone else
Excuse my typos. I didn't proofread because someone rang the doorbell. Just pressed submit without checking. (I hate typos)
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Give them a crayon and a coloring book. Put them in their safe space, and close the door. This is political correctness at its best.
Just because you haven't witnessed it personally doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Yes, there is a Fat Acceptance movement and no, it is not the same as body positivity. Fat Acceptance has been around for quite awhile and is supposed to be about combating anti-fat bias. However, most of the people within it use it as a way to convince themselves that they're fine, it's everyone else with the problem. They don't see being morbidly obese as a health problem and rage if a doctor tells them that dropping some weight may help their joint pain, hypertension, PCOS and may reduce their risk of several different types of cancer and heart disease. They believe that if a retail outlet doesn't carry their size, it's discrimination and that what they eat and the amount are in no way connected to their weight. These people are in no way body positime. Body positivity is about celebrating and believing in personal health regardless of size. These people denigrate anyone smaller than them, including other obese or overweight people that aren't their size. If anyone decides to eat healthier or ends up losing weight due to changes they've made to feel better (because many people in the BP movement do that), they are labeled as traitors or told they are fat shaming/fat hating. If anyone talk about weight loss around them, they are told they are fat shaming, like OP's story, even if they weren't involved in the conversation at all. These people are in no way positive. They're self hating underneath and project it outwards. They actually promote harmful behaviors because it is more important to continue deluding themselves that they're just as healthy as anyone else no matter how big they are, and some are quite large.