The female portion of this is full of crap...if your partner isn't fulfilling your needs when the time comes, ladies, you need to tell him how or show him what you like so that he can step it up.

Yeah 72, 'Please tell me of another thing I'm doing wrong and how to do it the right way' said no man ever.

81, I know a lot of women who have never had orgasms while having sex with someone & the thought of self pleasuring to achieve an ****** had seemed like the wrong thing to do. One even said it was her fault & there was something wrong with her. (This was waaaay before 50 shades of grey was even thought of) I've spoken to that same lady & she says that she now madturbates more than her husband & has never felt better. There was another woman who said she didn't see what the big deal was & confessed to only having one in her 25yrs of being married to her husband & had a talk with him about it. His feelings were hurt at first but he soon got over it when he saw how his wife glowed after, quote "her first earth shattering ******." I agree there needs to be more communication when it comes to our sex lives. But how do you start a conversation with a man about his performance when it's a fragile issue and can be taken as an attack?

Thanks for the sex ed lessons? You're wrong though. I get myself off all the time and I'm just as much of a **** as the next bitch. Orgasms don't have a thing to do with it.

I'll say it if she isn't getting what she needs. I'm not even scared. If they can't see that I'm trying to learn what they like and be better for them, then they aren't the one for me. I don't see why you wouldn't want to learn how to be better....Just because a girl is telling you? Drop that trash now and man up. Men shouldn't feel belittled or down just because they are bad in bed and need pointers. #84 Yes I see what you are saying about the men taking it as an attack. I'm a very open minded guy when it comes to learning what gets my girl hot under the collar. The best thing I can think of is to guide him to the right spot or tell him how when in the heat of the moment. He'll probably just take it as sexy talk and do what you are asking. (He may even think he is doing great because you are asking for more) I'm not sure how you would bring this up outside of the bedroom though, generally it will hurt him a bit, but just make sure that you aren't saying he is bad, he just needs to take a few extra steps to get you there.