By adoptablepuppy - 29/01/2016 01:17 - United States - Horseheads
I agree, your life sucks
23 047
You deserved it
2 810
adoptablepuppy tells us more.
adoptablepuppy
8
OP, here. Soooo.. I'm not a guy. And my friend is bisexual. But I thought it was great that you all thought I was a male, that and (most) of your comments actually made me feel better. For the other comments.. I know I deserved it, but it did suck, especially since I really didn't want to ask, but I thought "why not??".. Yeahhh.. I think I found out why not. ANYWAYS! For starters, we met when we were in middle school, I didn't have those kind of feelings for her back then. They've really just developed over the past few years. I haven't been in love with her for 9 years, that's just how long we've been friends. Okay, so this actually happened over a span of two days. The day I asked her out, she kind of freaked out, but she said it wasn't in a "bad" way. She mentioned that she had thought about a relationship with me in the past, and she was shocked that I was finally asking after so long, BUT that she needed time to think. I assumed that meant no, and I was assuming she would say no from the start. I asked her to just say no if she didn't want to, that I'm fine with it. She didn't answer when I said it, and she waited until the next day to answer.. with the puppy analogy. At first, she just drew "two girls = a girl with a dog" and gave me the drawing. I didn't know what that meant, so then she actually said what she meant it out loud. I was a bit annoyed that she didn't say no, she chose to choose an analogy. Honestly, a no would have been better (and less confusing.) I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way, she's not the greatest with words, but it hurt. I felt like it was a double smack in the face. We're still friends and I have no intentions of changing that. Anyhoo, thanks for the sweet comments. Hopefully some day I'll find "The One" and they won't think I'm a puppy. :*
Top comments
Comments
Seems like you were barking up the wrong tree.
ananicosia
28
Does she think she'll have to take care of you?
Or perhaps she'd have to take extra care of the relationship. If it falls apart, she won't just lose a boyfriend but a best friend as well.
bad_boyfriend
10
This logic always makes no sense to me. I know exactly zero people who have expressed their feeling to a close friend, been rejected, and been able to maintain the same friendship. Life's not a movie, once you put yourself out there, you have changed the power dynamic of the relationship. Trying to continue on the way you had been going is a pipe dream.
49, your username is especially appropriate
Badkarma4u
17
#49 Youre assuming she didnt already know the power dynamic. She already sees OP as a puppydog. The best thing he can do is man up get another gf and let her realize hes not who she thought he was. Sadly, most friendzoned guys who stay there forever are the there for a reason. Usually they lack the balls to just go for what they want, so they hang around and try to slide in under the radar.
FalloutScrolls
25
I've seen friendzone and brotherzone stories...but today is the first time I've seen a puppyzone story.
Brotherzone? Do I even want to know?
What the! Whats brotherzone stories now?!
"You're like a brother to me"
Didn't think "brotherzone" would need explainig
It happens man, but at least you still have your best friend!
Good for you for having the stones to ask. That's what will make you successful moving forward! And if you had never asked, you'd always wonder what would have happened.
You were in the friend-zone for 9 years. What did you expect?
She wasn't obligated to say yes. The friend zone doesnt exist. It's simply called what it always has been: Friendship. I do feel bad for OP, because it sounds like she's too busy for a relationship period if she couldn't even handle a puppy. Forget her and move on. There's plenty of available women that won't insult you by conparing you to a pet.
Ouch. That's got to hurt. It's also hard to go from being friends as long as you guys have been to being in a romantic relationship. Do you really want to risk losing that friendship? There is pleanty of other fish in the sea.
Obviously you should kill her. As opposed to just dealing with it because it's probably for the best
ChiefKoala
30
I'm going to cover all of it here. TO anyone saying they're unattractive: Phooy. Don't be so hard on yourself. There's going to be someone one day that's going to see you and maybe not at first, but someday they'll wake up and see you and they'll think "Hey....I like this person..." I have anxiety and severe depression so it's king of hard for to see myself as anything other than unattractive. You guys will find the right person.
Keywords
The Top
I agree, your life sucks
11 391
You deserved it
115 808
I agree, your life sucks
0
You deserved it
0
The Top
I agree, your life sucks
5 316
You deserved it
346
I agree, your life sucks
56 229
You deserved it
6 716
I agree, your life sucks
14 967
You deserved it
40 499
I agree, your life sucks
33 464
You deserved it
4 019
I agree, your life sucks
47 688
You deserved it
10 788
I agree, your life sucks
2 742
You deserved it
336
Sounds like she's just scared of it not working out and ruining your friendship. And she might view it as her 'responsibility' for it to work and not let that happen.
Better her closest friend that lasts a lifetime than a relationship that turns sour and leaves your friendship awkward to impossible. Your lucky she's honest with you. Besides who doesn't love a puppy (so she does care), sounds like she thinks your just a little needy. Give yourself a couple more years to mature a little more and who knows...