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By Murlocmurk - 05/12/2012 17:04 - United States

Today, at school, I have to do a 45 minute presentation with a girl who has panic attacks so bad that she cries, runs out of the room, and sometimes passes out. This presentation terrifies her and it's a major part of my final grade. FML
I agree, your life sucks 27 643
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I know FYL because its important, but I have something to say. Take it easy on her. I get panic attacks too. A lot. Sometimes because of stressful situations like those, sometimes because something feels wrong in my body, sometimes for no reason in hte middle of the night. It feels like you are going to die when it gets bad, that it won't stop til you're heart explodes, or you want to faint. Your body feels numb all over, you think you'll collapse. You just feel so anxious you want to get out of wherever you are- I have to walk of metros or out of classrooms. It's hell. Try to be there for her, to understand, maybe she'll be better. Please try to calm her.

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More like **** HER life! I can't imagine having to experience such intense fear over a very normal part of life. It must be a socially crippling hell. Do equal parts of the research and preparation with her, but have a backup plan to do the actual presentation yourself should she be unable to do it.

lelo007 11

The only time I get panic attacks is in front of large crowds when I'm speaking or when I used to perform. My voice breaks, I start stuttering and losing my train of thought, and then the shakes and shortness of breath kicks in. I'm lucky enough to only have panic attacks in public speaking situations, because I can avoid them and couldn't imagine just having my daily life interrupted like a lot of people. I feel sorry for them.

I'm sorry, OP sounds like a whiny douche. Nobody chooses to have panic attacks, or any other medical malady for that matter. To complain about how how the sufferer's condition negatively affects you (in no tangible manner) is plain shitty.

Alright, I am really bad at public speaking/presenting too- I often end up crying or blanking out- and I completely sympathize with the girl, but let's face it- if OP's teacher isn't very understanding, OP's mark might go down as well if something goes wrong and it won't even be their fault. So I definitely see why they're complaining- I wouldn't call them selfish just because they're concerned about how it would affect them. Try to be understanding and help her through it OP, and don't stress her out too much, and hopefully you'll do alright. Good luck to both of you!

skip_m 6
Knightchaser27 25

How is making her feel bad going to help anything

Go learn what a panic attack is you insensitive ass.

And once you're done heeding Pleonasm's advice and getting over yourself, how about getting to know what you're talking about?

tjolivas 9

I get that too. Anxiety attacks are serious, so cut her some slack. The teacher would be a real dick to fail you both for something out of your control anyway

TheyCallMeDamien 17

I would've refused to have her on the project in the first place. I would've asked to do the project alone.

That does suck, but as a person who suffers from an anxiety disorder, I can tell you that one of the major triggers for her is probably exactly this. She knows about her condition, and she's afraid that because of it you're going to get screwed over on the presentation and hate her for it. You might not, but that could be what she's thinking. Maybe you could talk to your instructor about the situation, they might cut you both some slack.

sweetmama88 6
redhedsaysrawr 18

What the ****, why doesn't she have an IEP for this kind of stuff? That shouldn't be reflected on your grade because of someone's medical issues.

You, or at least I (in North America) can't get an IEP for mental illnesses. I do have one, which is why I know what you're saying, but often your brain and mental abilities contradict any mental illness. The girl in question may be a very bright young woman, which could explain if the professor hasn't got a lot of sympathy for her. In school, my IEP labels me as being intellectually gifted, and my teachers occasionally would give me a break on things that trigger my anxiety, but they don't understand it, or know how to deal with it in intellectually gifted people for the most part. I believe they think that because you get good marks, or do well on tests, speaking in front of a class shouldn't be a problem, and for the most part, they tell you to just get over it, which in my case, makes things worse. I really hope in my area they will implement IEPs for mental illness like anxiety disorder though. I know it would take a lot of pressure off some of my acquaintances, and really improve their marks, not to mention help to lower their risk of anxiety attacks triggered by having to speak/preform in front of their peers/

Give her a break. You couldn't possibly understand how much worse she's feeling about the whole thing

gothmo 8

You shush. Your life doesn't suck, hers does. Do you know how crappy it is to feel ostracized because you're awkward in front of crowds? When you get so freaked out of the thought of failing you can't even do it? I do. No one wanted to work with me because I was so shy and would get embarrassed very easily. I was freaking out because I had to do a short speech about my family in front of 10 people today and had to do it individually with the teacher. It may not be fun but I'm sure she feels a heck of a lot worse.

Of course his life sucks, he has to do a presentation with someone that sucks at it. That it also sucks for her doesn't mean it doesn't suck for him.