By TheSadPupper - 02/11/2016 15:17

Today, daylight savings is on the way. Two years ago, I planned to propose right before the time change, all to have an extra hour of "the best day of my life". Now I have an extra hour to remember how distinctly single I still am and how awful she was. FML
I agree, your life sucks 10 987
You deserved it 980

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OP here, made a new account just to respond. Been on this site for years and this is my first submission so at least I'm batting 1.000 on FMLs huh? Clarifications: The idea stemmed from a party I hosted the year prior as a post Halloween party. Didn't even realize it was Daylights Savings and when it was in full swing we realized we had a whole extra hour. We referred to it as the "Critical Hit" of party hosting. We had been together for 2+ years before the break up and it was HER that was trying to push for marriage after the first year. Like, in retrospect some really manipulative stuff about how she shouldn't have to jump through hoops and prove herself to me if I really loved her, and that she KNEW I was the one. I wanted to take my time and live together first, but I was head over heels for this girl. Finally around the two year mark I felt that I knew her well enough and felt like I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Clearly I was misguided. She broke up with me about 3 weeks before my proposal plan. Had to get my money back I had put down on an engagement ring ($1000 on $10K). That trip to the Jewelry store was not fun, but the workers there were super super gracious. I blamed myself for the longest time for driving her away and was an absolute mess for over a year. I'm.... a bit better now. I found out much later after the break up that she had cheated on me (that's a whole other crazy story), and that she lied to me about some CRITICALLY IMPORTANT information. And that she was already seeing someone else when we hooked back up about 4 months after our breakup. Her absolute lack of care for fidelity really got me when I found out she cheated on some other guy with me without my knowing. I actually like the interactions with OPs on this site so I'll try to be as open as possible.

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I'm sorry for what happened. I'm assuming she rejected the proposal? Don't kick yourself for it, as she could have said yes to make you not feel bad and then resented you for it, making you live in a lie of a relationship and waste these past two years! For others, or for next time, most couples talk about marriage prior to the proposal. Marriage should never be a surprise, but the way you propose can be! It's a huge commitment, both of you need to be on the same page! Good luck OP. Take it easy and keep on looking!

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You see what just flew by? That's the bullet you dodged buddy. It happens to everyone.

Actually, Daylight Losing Time is starting. Daylight Saving Time started in March and ends this Sunday.

Daylight Savings Time ends this Sunday, so you have a hour LESS. Does that help?

Oh, wait, I'm wrong. At 2 am, it will become 1 am, so it is an extra hour...

Her rejection of you doesn't make her "awful."

I took it to mean she was being awful in the way she rejected him. Maybe she was being mean about it.

melana09 19

I'm sorry your in pain but least you didn't spend those extra hours with her if she was an awful person.

Donut_Wizard 23

For what it's worth, it is an amazing idea!

OP here, made a new account just to respond. Been on this site for years and this is my first submission so at least I'm batting 1.000 on FMLs huh? Clarifications: The idea stemmed from a party I hosted the year prior as a post Halloween party. Didn't even realize it was Daylights Savings and when it was in full swing we realized we had a whole extra hour. We referred to it as the "Critical Hit" of party hosting. We had been together for 2+ years before the break up and it was HER that was trying to push for marriage after the first year. Like, in retrospect some really manipulative stuff about how she shouldn't have to jump through hoops and prove herself to me if I really loved her, and that she KNEW I was the one. I wanted to take my time and live together first, but I was head over heels for this girl. Finally around the two year mark I felt that I knew her well enough and felt like I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Clearly I was misguided. She broke up with me about 3 weeks before my proposal plan. Had to get my money back I had put down on an engagement ring ($1000 on $10K). That trip to the Jewelry store was not fun, but the workers there were super super gracious. I blamed myself for the longest time for driving her away and was an absolute mess for over a year. I'm.... a bit better now. I found out much later after the break up that she had cheated on me (that's a whole other crazy story), and that she lied to me about some CRITICALLY IMPORTANT information. And that she was already seeing someone else when we hooked back up about 4 months after our breakup. Her absolute lack of care for fidelity really got me when I found out she cheated on some other guy with me without my knowing. I actually like the interactions with OPs on this site so I'll try to be as open as possible.

You deserve so much more! Keep your head up and remember you are worth it!

AppleMango 8

That idea is actually so cute! I'm sad that it didn't work out for you OP, but when you find the right person for you, you'll be glad it didn't.

MiraRose 19

You poor thing!! That was an absolutely horrendous thing to do! Keep your head up, none of that was your fault and you'll find better.

Just remember, you had and extra hour to cope so you could get over her and realize that your future wife is out there, walking the earth, waiting for you to propose to her so that she can say yes to one that will love and hold her for the rest of her life.

wow.. what a really sweet thing to say. ^_^

2 years ago?? sorry but I think it's time to get over it.