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If I found out someone I was with did something like this intentionally without discussing it with me. I would leave them. Right there. I don't care if that sounds heartless. I'd take care of the child but I would not stay with someone so manipulative and selfish. An accident is different. But even if I'd been in a relationship for forty years, and found out something like this wasn't really an accident, it would be over. And I hate to say it, but the first thing that crosses my mind when a woman says... what would you think if I accidentally got pregnant is she's thinking about doing something on purpose. And I'm a female. Hate to be like that but I've seen one too many guys thinking about leaving a woman and then oops all of a sudden she's knocked up. Even with protection. And they almost always both end up hating each other and totally miserable.

> If your boyfriend isn't ready to take care of a child, then he shouldn't be having sex. Never heard of childfree before, have you? What makes you arrogant cretins think there isn't anyone that doesn't want to breed at all?

I would leave them too, if I were a guy and found out they lied to me about taking their birth control. Like you said, it's one thing if it's a complete accident, but PLANNING it without the other's knowledge?! That's messed up. But we should all know - the only true way to prevent kids is not having sex! I've had one too many friends get knocked up by their boyfriends - they've all stayed around till the baby was born, but after that they left the girl on her own with the child. And I'm pretty sure one did it on purpose to make him stick around (I'm not 100% sure) but he left anyways. I would NEVER ask a guy that, unless I've been with him for an extremely long time (a year or more) and he brought up the subject first because that question will definitely make a guy suspicious if you randomly ask it out of nowhere.

How is that arrogant? Hmm? Of course there's people that want to breed. In no way did that sentence state that there's no one in the world that wants to have a kid. Are you kidding me? It's just that depending on the age, especially for guys, they may not be ready (mentally or financially) to have a kid! There's stupid little girls running around saying they want to have kids RIGHT NOW. Guys on the other hand are more hesitant to say they want kids, especially when they're 19-years-old or younger. It's all a matter of maturity.

And 199, if there are people that don't want to breed at all, that's their choice. But when you have sex, there's always going to be that risk of accidently breeding soooo... if you don't want to breed, don't have sex. And you're probably just bitter about the whole childbirth thing because you can't get laid.

Oh shush, KBruce. You're just being a douche, and that last comment says a hell of a lot more about you than it does about 199. argv had a legitimate point, one I've made several times myself. The fact is, your argument does NOT stand up when it's applied to long-term, committed couples who aren't ready for children, and those who won't ever be prepared or want to have them. You can't possibly think it's irresponsible for a married couple to have sex if they're not prepared for a child. That's like saying if you're not ready for an STD, don't have sex at all, because condoms can break. I absolutely believe in being cautious and responsible about sex, but to say "if you don't want a kid, be abstinant, no matter what" is pretty naïve.

100% With TheIrishJaneDoe, there are plenty of Childfree people who will never want to have kids. Your logic is flawed. If you sky dive, or drive, or leave your house there is a chance you will be hurt or killed, should you stay inside under the covers forever because of that possibility? Should you be prepared if something does happen to you one day? Sure. But should it be a focus or something you worry about all the time? Nope. It is possible for Childfree people to have very rich lives, careers, and financial benefits because of their decisions. No one has the right to decide for someone else when and if they should want children, especially if it is done via deceit. Childfree all the way!

everything jane said, with a you're a moron thrown on top. "if you don't want kids you shouldn't be having sex" hey, if you don't want to trip you shouldn't be walking.

I just said that!!!.. ugh, I hate repeat posts

a year isnt xtremely long boo unless youre 14

Your so right, and some guys think the same way.

Yes it would make me very suspicious.

Lol