By AdamTB - 21/07/2015 17:45 - United States
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Huh, surprised this got published. Anyway, a lot of the comments are about me just taking control and dropping it and that’s probably not going to change, so I’ll just comment the reason why I haven’t now. Due to my Asperger’s, my parents feel like I am not self-sufficient and I cannot make my own decisions. Naturally, this is completely false. However, due to college being ungodly expensive, I’m living with them until I can become financially stable. Now then, onto the problem. Dropping the class is a great idea in theory, but that’s not going to happen in practice. Trust me, if I could then I would. If I drop the class, my parents will definitely know. They will then proceed to, for lack of a better phrase, bitch me out for dropping it without consulting them (which I have done, and they refused to let me drop it). They are not abusive, but can be relentless and admittedly scary at times. I’d rather take a demeaning class than have to deal with them. Does that sound like a childish reason? If it does, I don’t blame you. I’ve always been constantly told that I’m mentally and emotionally a few years behind normal people. Sometimes, I don’t know whether to believe it or not. Regardless, my best option is to just move forward with the class no matter what happens. Also, this is probably going to be brought up so I’ll just talk about it now: no, I cannot move out. They will not let me as they do not believe I could survive by myself yet. Even if I were to just run away and move out, I still don’t have the finances to buy a even an apartment room and continue with college.
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I'm sorry, OP I have aspergers too, it sucks balls when teachers over adjust and treat you like a kid. I bet they don't realize people like us usually have above average IQs
Actually that's not true at all. Proper studies on it have shown that most are average level with a very few being above average. You probably only hear about the super smart ones because it makes for a better new story.
I'm sorry that your parents won't listen, OP. As an Aspie myself, I know how frustrating and embarrassing it is to be talked to like you are dumb for having a differently wired brain. I would suggest looking into what your state's laws are for accomadating students that have alternative needs.
I think a lot of people are over reacting; it's just a class and your parents think that it's best for you! It's true that you should have a say in the classes you take, but I don't think it's worth the argument! Just sit back and relax, or bring stuff to study for your other classes :)
Please, tell me how people think he deserves this? Oh, he deserves this for having aspergers? Well that's pretty damn stupid.
Don't let your parents decide that for you!
I think you are showing a lot of maturity. Though it is hard, it is not forever and if you say little, knuckle down and just see it through you will then have the freedom to approach the course as you see fit. They might be going about it the wrong way but they just want to ensure you have the best start they can give you. All the best.
I know the feeling, OP. My parents (now just parent as my Dad died a few years back) have never been at all interested in me, but when I went away to a boarding school and was finally diagnosed with Asperger's, I had a nurse/advisor who was precisely the same way (She drove me insane and was eventually abusive but I'm just about coping in my own little place now away from her). It's easier to let them do their thing but I hope you can get out of there and on your own soon, and if things get bad, maybe there's a friend or family member you can stay with. All the best of luck to you!
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Funny thing about college, you can add or drop a class without our parents consent.
"won't let you"? If you are 18 you don't need their permission.
You keep saying "they won't let me". But if you are 18 you don't need their permission. You can get a federal loan and live on campus.
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You're an adult. Make your own decisions
It's actually rather mature, honestly. You're doing the right thing, it doesn't cause you that much trouble and it makes your parents happy. Sometimes we just have to do things we don't want to for the sake of those who care about us.