By Uh-oh - 10/11/2009 12:33 - Australia

Today, I decided to come clean with my daughter about her adoptive status within my family. Just after I told her she was adopted, I realized that I have been telling her stories about me giving birth to her. FML
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Now by keeping that secret from her for so long, you've taught her that being adopted is something to be ashamed of. You should have told her she was adopted from the start and you adopted her because you love her. Adoptive parents take a child from biological parent(s) who for one reason or another feel they can't or aren't able to raise their child. That is a gift, or it should be. Clearly if you think adoption is something to keep secret from your child then you deserve it. **** your daughter's life, indeed

you probly should have let her know when she was younger.

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The moment you decided to lie about yourself giving birth was the moment you could never give her the truth. Either you lie to her or you tell her the truth from the beginning. You just managed to make your daughter never trust you again. I feel sorry for you, posting to this website is more important to you than telling your daughter the truth. I hope you can fix whatever damage you have already done.

HighLife19 0

HAHA, ******' owned! You shouldn't have lied about giving birth to her when you never ******* did!

Wow. I hope the kid's going to be okay (if not now, then eventually). Be grateful if she doesn't hate you for life since you certainly deserve to be. I know I would. Fortunate for you, I merely consider you a loathsome aberration. Now do us all a favor and get out.

15turtles 0

you are both the best and the worst liar in the world. either tell a lie and stick to it, or be clean from the start. make sure she knows how much you love her and that raising her changed your life for the better. good luck.

Brooklynxman 0

I.....am astonished at how terribly you handled this. I can't say you are a poor parent, after all you loved her enough to adopt her, however, you certainly have room for improvement.

I think you deserve every pain your daughter gives you. I'm adopted, and my parents told me at such a young age that I don't even remember the first time they told me. I don't care if I'm adopted, and I'm sure your kid wouldn't either...but now I bet she's furious. And I can't believe you made up stories about giving birth to her! That's horrible! All your fault, bitch.

I sort of agree with you. The Mother needs to apologize a LOT and give her daughter space, but this is far from the worse thing a mother could do. It's not the fact that she kept the adoption a secret, it's that she made up all these stories about the birth that never happened. That's flat out LYING and MANIPULATING. I was lucky enough to have parents that told me outright that I was adopted. I'm glad thay did.

suesblues 0

Why the hell would you lie to your own child about something that important? Way to make her feel like being adopted is something to be ashamed of. You FAIL. And F her life for having a shitty Mom who screwed with her head.

MermaidSongXOXO 6

If her name is Esther, at least OP will know she loves daddy more anyway. Oh, wait.... she killed him. Nevermind :/