I wouldn't go around giving that advice. If people actually follow it, you'll never get a girlfriend.

she was with him for a bit over a year before she got pregnant. she deserves it so, SO much for that. not many people deserve to get cheated on, but if she got pregnant like that, then whatever problems she encounters for it are at the very least PARTLY her fault

you are saying it like she meant to get pregnant, which maybe she did. but did you ever think that their form of birth control failed? it's not like that is uncommon.

abortion is her friend. and if she doesn't believe in that, adoption.

Abortion? At 7 months? Are you stupid?

.... you know, not EVERYONE is as idiotic as illogical as you. no, i'm not saying she should get an abortion after 7 months, you ******* retard! but if her birth control failed, then that means that she didn't WANT a child, and in that case she SHOULD NOT keep it! so the choices are either abortion or adoption (or, if she's a retard, she can go "ohwel mah purrty boifrennd and i can reyz itt :D")

Ok, question. You said abortion is her friend. Maybe it could've been 4 months ago, but as she is now past her first trimester, it's irrelevant. Especially since she's now in her third, the closest thing she could have to an abortion, is to somehow kill the fetus inside her and then have a stillborn, and who the **** would do that. So your point is completely irrelevant. And who's to say the birth control failed? Who's to say this child wasn't planned. And if her birth control didn't fail, it doesn't mean she never wanted to keep the baby, so...Think things through a little yeah?

if the baby WAS planned, she's a ******* idiot. if she's dumb enough to have child with a man that she's only been together with for little over a year, she deserves any and all problems that come of it. christ on a bike, this reminds me of that FML that went "today i saw a guy on youtube scratching his ipod with a knife, but it was still intact after. i tried it myself. it didn't work. FML" wow, it didn't work? WHO'D HAVE THOUGHT?! if you're stupid, you deserve the troubles that come to you because of it.

no... just no... unless you perhaps spent every waking moment of every waking day for two years talking to a person, if even then, you WOULD NOT KNOW THEM INSIDE AND OUT. and even so, he could've lied. it's pretty damn easy to lie. and seriously? people getting married after they've been together for ONE year? and then they stay together for the rest of their lives? hell no. that could only happen if it were forced upon them.

Forced upon them huh? Wow, cause no way could two people fall in love, get married and stay married cause they want to, nope, that's just stupid!!! While you might think it's wiser to wait, other people don't and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But people who wait can get divorced just as easily, or be miserable just as easy. And I didn't mean every little thing about them, but as much as someone can know another person.

get married after a year and stay married? yeah, because that happens ALL the time... and "sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't"? what are the odds that it's going to work after ONE YEAR?! i can see it now, you future... you're probably going to marry some random guy that you've been with for 3 months because you love him soooo much, then get pregnant on the honeymoon or something, aaaaand then the same thing that happened to the OP will happen to you. "people who wait can get divorced just as easily"? really? so it's not riskier at ALL to get married to someone you hardly know? i don't care WHO you are, WHO your partner is, or HOW "fast" your relationship is progressing. you DO NOT fully know someone after one year.

I'm done with you, I can't be ****** going on about this. You don't know me, you don't know a lot of things. Just cause you can't figure out how to get to know someone, that's sad for you.

even if you were with someone for 5 years, they could still lie to you. some people jsut click differently so you can't simply say that no one (and i'm guessing the all caps mean that you are oh so serious) can know each other after that amount of time.

Marrajane ~ i agree with all of your posts and people are dumb so ill step in for you: I actually know a few couples who were married after a few months of knowing each other and have been together for 20 years perfectly happy. There is no equation for a happy marriage that does not end in divorce. One cannot say every marriage that happened after x amount of time will last for y amount of time. Thats stupid and ignorant. It is also stupid to assume every person in the world that has a child is married/should be married to the child's other parent until you have gone out and personally lived in the shoes of every other person in the world. I know of many families where the children want the parents to be divorced. People that stay in an unhealthy relationship for the sake of the child are hurting themselves, the spouse and the children and trust me, children are usually pretty perceptive to when there is too much unhealthy tension in a marriage.

i use caps because you can't use italics on fmylife, jackass _ _' and i'm not saying that people don't lie to eachother just because they've been together a certain amout of years, i'm saying that there's less of a chance that your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/whatever is going to cheat on you if you've been together for 20 years as opposed to 2 years.

My parents only knew each other for 2 weeks when they married. About a month after, he had to be gone for a week and shaved his mustache. When he came home, she didn't recognize him without his mustache and wouldn't let him in. They are still married after 33 years.

and you're saying things like that happen all the time? that it's more common than people getting married before they were ready and then getting a divorce later on?

i think it's great that people CAN get divorced, in fact sometimes that's a damn good thing... i just think you should think it through many, many times before you actually do it.

and while it's great that you and your husband and your parent and the other people that you mentioned made it work, that's not always how it is. isn't the divorce rate 50% or something? people need to learn to think things through (and realise that being together for 2 years is in no way a guarantee that you will want to be with that person for the rest of your life. 4 years could work, 5 or 6 is optimal, in my opinion. my personal one)

And that's great for you if you believe that is best for yourself. But that's not how everyone sees it. Some people take time, and some people don't. It's the same way some people are socially awkward and can't make friends, and others can, some can public speak, others can't. Some are more open to love that they find it within weeks, days, hours or even minutes, as opposed to years.

within minutes? .... yeah, now i'm sure you're just trying to fool me. "oh hai, i've only asked you your name, where you live and how old you are, but I LOVE YOU AND I WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH YOU!!!!!1!111!!ONEELEVEN!! :D :D" _ _'

and, to be honest, that's not even the point... you can love someone after a matter of weeks, yes, but loving someone doesn't make you immune to getting cheated on! the longer a couple is together, the higher the chances that they'll stay together are. OP's still a retard for having a baby with a guy who she hasn't been in a relationship for a long time with, and expecting then him to never break up with her. i could only forgive the OP if she got pregnant because her birth control failed, and she is planning to put the kid up for adoption. or possibly if she got pregnant on purpose because she really wanted a baby and CAN and wants to take care of it. but from the way this fml is written, i don't think either of those are the case.

Explain?