By MotherMary - 12/10/2014 13:21 - United States - Park Hills

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Today, I found out that my boyfriend of three years, who can't get it up for me and has been blaming blood pressure issues, apparently has no problem getting it up while watching the neighbor undress from our window. FML
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Emmiii_fml 18

You should really confront him about that :/ sorry about that. Hope you'll get everything sorted out! You deserve better :)

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xXXimaginaryXxx 2

If he's in his 20's-early 30's and doesn't have much physical history with girls, if he has problems getting an erection with another person, it could be a **** thing. It's actually pretty common, a young man discovers ****, trains his brain to respond to visual stimulation instead of physical stimulation. Would explain how he could have issues with you but can get it up for the neighbor he can see but not touch. It was wrong to lie but he was probably embarrassed. You may wanna have him see a sex therapist and try to work through it. Sorry.

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Laurenlou 24

Thanks for pointing this out. Its actually a huge problem for a large number of boys from 14-24 years old. OP should definitely talk to her boyfriend about his **** use. It seems to be seriously harming their relationship. Stopping the use of **** would be a good start to fixing the problem. There are lots of studies avalible online about this. Also, do you notice that most people are blaming OP? Like OP needs to be the one to "spice things up" by "trying new clothes" or something. Just the thought that a woman should have to work to be attractive to her boyfriend, as if he is entitled to such things, is crazy.

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maharb01 17

I love how you just conclude that its ****, 101. might not be a bad question to ask, but immediately assigning all blame? having tough conversations with a loved one is. . .tough! He might have a hard time vocalizing what he wants without feeling like he would be disrespecting her or making her do something that's just not her. it's tough to find that middle ground where both parties are "wow" satisfied, and even tougher to keep that going. should he be seeking satisfaction with the girl across the way? No, but we don't know the full story

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ayanna_wright 15

You mean EX boyfriend ?

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MamaZombieCakes 17

He's a jerk and you deserve better! You deserve someone Who will treat you with respect, and not judge you. keep your head up sunshine! It will all work out. ☺

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j_cat187 19

I'm lost. How is not being able to get it up judgemental?

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MamaZombieCakes 17

I mean find someone who isn't going to be judgemental by judging her looks and things like that. i was just saying incase that was part of the problem that wasn't mentioned.

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mishwarner 14

You need to be sexually attracted to your partner. While it's nice not to judge people by their looks we're talking about sexual urges & physical attraction here. But... He might not be confident in bed. That could be another reason for his erection issues

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Demonyx 6

How does any of that have anything to do with this post?

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mkop_16 1

Why stay with someone who doesn't find you attractive? Maybe in the 3 years you've let yourself go and his penis isn't scared about letting you know!

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interesting33 36

why are you assuming that? Why are you saying it is OP's fault because she might have 'let herself go??' I'm pretty sure that you would have to look radically different for that to be the reason - unless it is the mystery or novelty he likes.

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DogeMan 14

Dumb him bc on day u might come home and him and the neighbor screwing around

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miketopgunmike1 25

if we are going with this insanity, why not just go ahead and execute you because one day you"might" become a mass murderer......

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ninety 25

Well, if you want to go by the logic of previous posts of the neighbor leaving the blinds open on purpose and the fact that the op's bf clearly finds the neighbor attractive, the logic for this scenario isn't really farfetched.

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Nicki90 5

Maybe youre a bitch and he just doesn't want to be with you?

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SarahJacobs 1

Your boyfriend can only get it up by nonconsensually objectifying strangers in their own homes while they disrobe in a non sexual context. Hmmm.... I'd say, run. And warn the neighborhood that he beats off while watching them undress.

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interesting33 36

Some people like non-con but would never ever actually rape or abuse anyone

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thisguy22 33

I would suggest this it is situational. A lot of people can only be aroused by a particular fetish, in this case voyeurism. Maybe try role playing with him and see where it goes?

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