Oh yes, let's introduce an obese child to laxatives & give him a different eating disorder.

The kid is probably overdosing on laxatives so he can eat the junk food he likes without gaining weight. Boys get eating disorders as well.

14. Young enough to know it all and we took every word the televised & published media said. As we grow older we become more jaded and piece by piece we lose that innocence that makes being a child so special.

I might be crazy here but is there not an age where in a boy's mind girls are gross ( where to boys girls have cooties and the reverse for girls) ? If the son is in that age group telling him that girls won't be all over him will sound like a super attractive idea for the future.

I appreciate ur notion but why don't u concentrate upon my hint regarding disadvantages of obesity on cardiac and other functionalities of body?moreover, I guess girls won't affect his future as much as obesity would do.

But you made it seem like the fact girls won't be crawling all over him is the biggest and worst thing, you said "tell him about the disadvantages of obesity.......like girls won't like him".

Way to go overcoming your addiction! Too often these days people just submit to a food addiction and think they have gone too far to go back.

26, do you expect op to be around her son every single waking moment of his and her life? How can op be held responsible if her son is sneaking and binging on junk food? He could be giving his friends money to buy it for him. There could be a shop on his way home from school (if he goes) that he stops at. Perhaps op could dig a bit deeper and ask his friends parents to speak to their kids & tell them the situation & ask for their help. If there is a shop, go and ask to see the manager &/or owner, provide a pic of your son & ask them not to sell him junk food. Agreed op is the parent and responsible for the child's health and well being, but the child himself needs to acknowledge and accept that he's eating himself into an early grave. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. Desperate times call for desperate measures. Op, a dnm is definitely warranted with your son, I've heard of morbidly obese people opening their homes to younger people on the food path to destruction and talking with them about their choices and where they could lead them. Maybe talk to your doctor or a community group of some kind. I was bullemic for 6yrs & an extreme comfort food binger. The best thing I did was talk to my doctor & a counselor & saw for myself, the effects an eating disorder can have in the long run. No parent wants to watch their child slowly kill themselves if they can stop it.

34, I'm pretty sure 26 meant that OP should've seen the problem from the start and tried to stop it earlier instead of it getting to the point where her son has to go on a strict diet and exercise plan. It takes more than a few months to reach obesity, OP should've seen the signs and shouldn't have let it get as far as it did.

Ok, fair enough. But speaking from experience, at my heaviest I was 120kg & 14yrs of age when a friend showed me how to throw up after eating. I quickly developed an eating disorder, bulimia, and only sought help because my teeth were being eaten away by the stomach acid I was throwing up. I never accepted responsibility for my over eating or binging until that day at the GP. No one else made me put the biscuits, cake, chips, into my hand and hand to mouth until there was nothing left. I would over eat, throw up, feel bad about throwing up, go and eat half a cake, feel bad about binging, go throw up. It was a vicious cycle and an extremely difficult addiction to deal with as junk food, fast food & fat-laden take aways are so easily accessible and usually cheap. Ops' son needs education about choices, consequences, balanced nutrition & a more healthy lifestyle needs to be adopted by the whole family in support of the son & as a side bonus, their health will likely improve as well.

But I think what 26 was referring to was OP showing her son healthy foods from a young age. If he had started eating badly when he was younger and OP saw that her son's weight was increasing to the point where he'd soon be obese, then she should've done something. Of course I'm not sure and we need a bit more info on this FML. I hope OP follows up to let us know the entire story. Also, I'm very sorry about your experience; though I'm only 15, I've been through the same experience.

73, thank you and I wish you strength, wisdom and courage to overcome your demons. Prevention is better than a cure, I wholeheartedly agree. More info is definitely required. Unfortunately, there's a lot of grey areas, nothing is black or white. I'll be keeping an eye out to see if op posts a comment to clarify some things.

31 blaming op for her son being obese is like blaming a teacher for having some students that don't pass a test. There is a duty of care and responsibility that goes hand in glove when dealing with kids. But, that's why we're taught right from wrong, good from bad. The choices that Ops' son makes are his own... Thus he has to sneak and binge on junk food. He knows it's wrong and bad for him, but he's addicted ( like a drug user) to the junk food. The cravings can be compared to a drug addict or lifelong cigarette smoker suddenly going cold turkey. The body goes into shock & shuts down & the only way to get it going again is to feed it what it craves. Plus, we don't know psychologically why he keeps turning to junk food. & yes there's always a reason. It may be on the surface, or buried so deep that not even captain nemo could find it. Don't be so quick to pin all the blame on the parent(s).