By karmaplz - 23/02/2011 14:26 - United States

Today, I got a call from the police dept. My ex-boyfriend is applying for a job there, and they called me to ask if he was "a good candidate for a police officer." I had to start my day off by saying great, nice things about the guy who broke my heart and completely disrespected me. FML
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I feel the need to clear up some of this discussion! First of all--thanks to all these anon. people for defending me. I honestly submitted this immediately after getting the phone call @ 8:30 am, never thinking it'd be posted. Secondly-- is he a bad guy? No. I'm sure if being a cop is what he wants to do, and has his heart in it, he'll do great at his job. As far as the disrespect: it got to a point where I wasn't valued as a person, and some very vulgar, vile, rude and hurtful things were said/done to me, that wouldn't have been done if I was respected for who I am. If I was seen as a human with a heart and feelings, these things wouldn't have been done. Can I say that this will never happen to another female? No. Do I think he's pure evil? No. Saying bad things would have been purely vengeful and ruined a potential career. Also, I wasn't listed a reference, they required names and phone numbers of "significant relationships"--- I was asked if there was ever an assault between us, and about his moral character. That's it. I've had a seriously great laugh over realizing this was actually posted, and loved reading all the comments. Thanks!

Top comments

Why didn't you just tell them bad things?

As someone who knows a fair amount about the hiring process, you should have told them he was disrespectful. It is NOT grounds for disqualification, but it would give them a realistic idea about who he was. They would talk to him about it, but that doesn't mean they would DQ him. You should have been honest.

Comments

I really think what you did was great! I mean if you were standing in his position, you would be so thankful that he did the same to you. Everything is not about karma, but how to learn to be friend again.

quarterbird 18

So... By helping someone who, by her description, is emotionally abusive get a gun and badge... she's learning to be a friend again? Ummmmmmmm... How about she learns how to be a friend again by some method that doesn't potentially lead to a person with emotion or anger issues carrying a gun for a living? I guess screw society in the name of her being friends with her ex... because being friends with someone who mistreated her is more important than being honest during the law enforcement vetting process.

They probably wanted you to be honest about him..

kaylae22 13

Id have said he would be alright that ya there would be better people then him for the job. That would put them in the right light but not fully make it hard to get the job

sabrinaMA 7

Wow so you made it possible for another complete asshole to "protect and serve" the blood is on your hands when he wrongfully kills someone. Congratulations you're ******* idjit

Tbh, you did a good deed because why say bad things and level up to his standards ya know. & Karma will do her job just have to be patient. You'll get more good things in your life if you keep doing good deeds.

an3ph 20

You are a good person for taking the high road. Glad to have you in the species!

snarkytruth 37

As a public servant he needs to be able to see EVERYONE as a person with value good or bad. That goes for every situation.

GamerPerson 19

Ok, nice of you to do that, OP, but think about it: You said yourself that he didn't treat you like a Human being. You're giving him a good REFERENCE of his character, where he'll have to interact with other PEOPLE! If he's done that with you and not giving you respect, what means you think he won't do the SAME thing to strangers?!

devans00 14

Oh, well OP. You could have saved the world from another emotionally immature person with power & access to a gun. Thanks