By bluestripedsockm - 15/05/2015 05:40 - United States - San Francisco

Today, I got a text saying I was "banned" from a volunteer group by the vice chair. Why? Because him dumping me the night before and leaving me in the bar alone drunk and crying wasn't enough for him, apparently. FML
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bluestripedsockm 14

Hello all, OP here. This took place over a year ago, but this is the first time I'm comfortable about posting it. I met this guy through work (my first serious boyfriend) and had been dating for four months when he first mentioned the group and encouraged me to volunteer. I didn’t know his position in it until a year later, when this happens. The main group is small, most of whom are on the board and are close-knit friends. After a long meeting, six of us go out for drinks together. The others had broken off into their own conversations and I asked my then-boyfriend if he wanted to meet more of my friends, he ignores me, I ask him why he’s being grumpy, he says “We’re done” and walks away. (He told me later that he felt that conversation should’ve been had at a different time and he felt I was nagging him.) The other four tell me that “he’s only angry/drunk, he didn’t mean it, give him a couple weeks to cool off,”etc. and told me to go away since I was ruining their good time. My ex leaves the second his tab is paid. A female volunteer/friend pitied me enough to drive me home, since I lived the furthest out and drove alone. The next day at work, I get a text from him saying I’m "no longer welcome" at the group. I texted the others about this and all I get is “since he requested it, I have to honor it”. I get ahold of the chairman (who knew nothing about the ban) and he told me that he’d talk to his vice chair. Nothing follows. I wanted to do something more about it, but it wasn’t worth the headache. If anything I wanted to see if there was a legitimate reason or him being a spiteful dick. I want to say that this was a one-time reaction, but that’d be a lie. It was like I was dating a stereotypical pregnant woman. Now, I’m prepping for graduation from college and am working too much for me to consider dating someone now. It wouldn’t be fair to the guy I date.

Top comments

Damn, that's really the worst type of person. But be glad he's out of you your life.

Arctilex 16

What an ass. At least you are freed from the confines of his dictatorship. Never date a co-worker in my opinion. I tried once and I regret it.

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If it's a volunteer group where you will be working in close proximity, I can understand why he would do it, although it really seems harsh. If it's not, then maybe he's just being a jerk. Either way, FYL OP. You'll find someone better.

that's horrible. I am so so sorry that happened to you OP

Hang tight girl. You're better off without the scumbag.

That is one asshole. Breaking your heart is something....breaking your career is a whole other thing!

You are better off without that idiot.

Is there a way to appeal it? Screw that a-hole. If you can appeal it, get your spot back and show up all the time just to piss him off.

danimal_crackerz 26

I've seen some pricks in my days, but this guy is a cactus

Well are you conveniently leaving out any details? People usually do when something like this happens. Like what happened that lead to something? There had to be SOME reason, I mean people aren't complete a*sholes for no reason.