By bluestripedsockm - 15/05/2015 05:40 - United States - San Francisco

Today, I got a text saying I was "banned" from a volunteer group by the vice chair. Why? Because him dumping me the night before and leaving me in the bar alone drunk and crying wasn't enough for him, apparently. FML
I agree, your life sucks 31 805
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bluestripedsockm 14

Hello all, OP here. This took place over a year ago, but this is the first time I'm comfortable about posting it. I met this guy through work (my first serious boyfriend) and had been dating for four months when he first mentioned the group and encouraged me to volunteer. I didn’t know his position in it until a year later, when this happens. The main group is small, most of whom are on the board and are close-knit friends. After a long meeting, six of us go out for drinks together. The others had broken off into their own conversations and I asked my then-boyfriend if he wanted to meet more of my friends, he ignores me, I ask him why he’s being grumpy, he says “We’re done” and walks away. (He told me later that he felt that conversation should’ve been had at a different time and he felt I was nagging him.) The other four tell me that “he’s only angry/drunk, he didn’t mean it, give him a couple weeks to cool off,”etc. and told me to go away since I was ruining their good time. My ex leaves the second his tab is paid. A female volunteer/friend pitied me enough to drive me home, since I lived the furthest out and drove alone. The next day at work, I get a text from him saying I’m "no longer welcome" at the group. I texted the others about this and all I get is “since he requested it, I have to honor it”. I get ahold of the chairman (who knew nothing about the ban) and he told me that he’d talk to his vice chair. Nothing follows. I wanted to do something more about it, but it wasn’t worth the headache. If anything I wanted to see if there was a legitimate reason or him being a spiteful dick. I want to say that this was a one-time reaction, but that’d be a lie. It was like I was dating a stereotypical pregnant woman. Now, I’m prepping for graduation from college and am working too much for me to consider dating someone now. It wouldn’t be fair to the guy I date.

Top comments

Damn, that's really the worst type of person. But be glad he's out of you your life.

Arctilex 16

What an ass. At least you are freed from the confines of his dictatorship. Never date a co-worker in my opinion. I tried once and I regret it.

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Sk8brdmenace 17
Sk8brdmenace 17

Once doors stopped bein opened or small gestures of kindness disappear, it's usually a bad sign just for future reference. Most guys are ******* and have to be a dick for a while before they actually make a break. No disrespect fellas but we gotta take care of our women.

magickiss87 22

Asshole! Most guys are assholes, but not all of them! If that's how this guy acts, you are MUCH better off without his childish bullshit. I'm sorry he did this to you, Op, but better to have found out now than later on what kind of a jerk he can really be. It's his loss and your gain. Now you can spend your time and energy on the things and people that actually deserve it and it leaves you open to find someone who truly is worthy of your affections.

That's actually really ******* shitty. His action was completely immature and unnecessary. Shove a pacifier up that child's ass.

He sounds like a douche. Maybe you could press charges for harassment?

Can't believe you had to be banned, shoulda had some self respect an not gone. It's not his fault you chose to cry