Are there really, though?

Maybe she got sweaty? Chill out, dude.

Uh, you don't bathe after sex? FYL and any female/male you sleep with. Who knows what you're spreading? Bathing after sex is strongly recommended. You sweat for one and you have to wash away the bodily fluids

bollywood_rocks, I know what I'm spreading -- legs. Who strongly recommends bathing after sex? You? Why should I be so quick to get her bodily fluids off of me? I worked so hard to collect them! Maybe showering after sex is not a bad idea, but if you stink as bad as the OP, you should shower beforehand for sure.

oh god, u made me cry with laughter, esp the spreading bit looool

Lillith, You are why I do it! Thanks.

You would want to wash them away because of the fact of the bacteria you will be given. It will eventually spread if you don't wash them off.

Don't be so afraid of bacteria. Our bodies are composed of 10-50 times as many bacterial cells as there are human cells (human cells are much larger, so most of our mass is human, yay!) Sure, if your partner may be harboring the really yucky ones, there should be some urgency to wash their residue off of you (you shouldn't be going in unprotected anyway). But, let's not focus on post-coital cleanliness. We need to understand what made the OP so repulsive that her boyfriend ditched her after sex!

Aw plexico thanks for making me laugh. I loved the last sentence

... and you are a ******* moron for saying that.

Here, you must have missed this bit: "...with my boyfriend of SIX MONTHS."

Forgot that six months was such a long time.

I agree. How can you be a couple for 6 months and not be in love? I guess some people take a different approach to relationships than I do...

Agree with #22

136, it's a bit late but I just want to point out that not everyone exchanges "I love yous" before or after months. Some people like to take their time etc

While that is sound advice, I'd say 'boxing them in' isaved the OP some hassle - if the boyfriend couldn't handle the fact that they weren't on the same page, what else would he have ran out on her on?

I strongly disagree. If a woman feels it first and they've been in the relatonship for a respectable amount of time, she shouldn't have to wait around for him to grow a set of balls. If it scares him, too bad. Either accept her feelings or leave and she'll find someone who'll embrace her love. He could have given her a kiss and said something sweet. He doesn't necessarily have to say it back, but running away because he's scared? Some men are the biggest wimps. I said it first to my boyfriend, and nothing bad happened. If he did run, quite clearly he's either a pussy or wasn't ready for a serious relationship. Either way, he's not right for me!

But what's respectable to us women is different from what's respectable to men. Isn't that why we have the 5yr old dead end relationships? IMHO, I think 6 months is a short amount of time. The guy I'm with now said it after 3 months and I'm still wondering if he's up to something :)

He might have been put off by how spontaneous her confession was, especially right after sex.

6 months is a short time? What the hell is wrong with you? I agree with #31. If you feel it say it. If the guy isn't a douchebag he won't leave you just for that. If he doesn't feel the same at that moment it doesn't mean he won't later. Bringing it up would give you guys an opportunity to talk about it. I say good on the OP for expressing her feelings and her ex better hope to never meet me.

6 months is just barely acceptable, imo, but it isn't time or age (the OP's also only 19) that indicates readiness for love; it's maturity and trust. I don't think the OP knew her boyfriend well enough, because she should have ended it before she fell for him if she knew that he was this type of guy. Sure, the guy has reason to be scared if he isn't in love, but that doesn't mean he should flee. Reckless relationships often end this way. I'm also going to assume she didn't know her boyfriend as "just friends" before engaging in a relationship, because a lot of people put on new faces for relationships to seem more considerate, honest, desirable, etc. but they usually revert to their old habits after becoming really comfortable with their partner, and then the relationship falls through. The man wants sex but the women is exhausted because she's overworked and he won't help her, neither of them have the time for intimacy, they don't share any interests or they just weren't compatible as partners (as the most common courses of divorce, imo). It's better that things ended after only 6 months, instead of her being in a dead-end relationship for a decade and sharing their stress with their kids. They say love is blind, but it doesn't have to be. And, although premarital sex is the "norm" today, it shows more commitment to wait.

Personally...there's no set time before you can say "I love you". When you feel it, you feel it. When you know, you know. Love's fickle like that.

There have been people in this site who have been in love with people that don't know their name... I think that saying you love someone after six whole months of dating them is more than acceptable. Anyway, love is such a vague term. You don't fall in love in an instant ("love at first sight" does not exist- that's infatuation). It's something that develops over time.