Any person would be taken back by the thought of their significant other looking at ****. I don't see how she's upright.

That's not true at all. **** isn't threatening to a healthy relationship. It's perfectly normal to fantasize and every guy has a right to look at sexy things when they're masturbating. It's not a betrayal. I don't understand women's logic on this. Yes that girl is pretty, but he's never going to have sex with her, he's just going to look at her. If you're threatened by a girl who has sex with more guys than she can count, for money, and don't think you have a lot more to offer your boyfriend/husband in your relationship than how willing she is to do sexual things on camera, then what you're really insecure about is yourself. Not that hot women having sex makes his dick hard.

Taken back is one thing, but slapping him and leaving is seriously ridiculous. Like she said above its not like he's ever gonna have sex with a pornstar (No offense OP);but he didn't even get the chance to explain before she overreacted.

My opinion on the matter is that watching **** is not cheating. However, watching it involves fantasizing about having sex with someone else. Therefore it's a constant fantasy about cheating. I know a lot of people, boys and girl alike will disagree with this statement. But cheating to me means doing anything intimate with someone besides your partner. And so if you have to get yourself off by imagining you're having sex with those people then I don't think you're happy in your relationship. I think that you chose to be with that one person, so you should be with them.

It is not cheating to imagine having sex with someone else. It is only a problem when it comes between the two people. Such as, thinking about a **** star while you are sleeping with your husband, spending time masturbating instead of with your wife, comparing your girlfriend to a **** star... etc.

No, if I whack Lil Jimmy to Kelly Divine that has nothing to do with my girlfriend. It just means I'm very horny and she is not around.

I never said it was cheating. That was my first sentence actually. I said it's only FANTASIZING about cheating. Unless you think that having sex with someone isn't cheating which you might. Everyone has their own views. I've just seen it described wayyyy too often that **** is the reason why some many guys don't physically cheat. If **** is what's stopping you from cheating then I think there is a problem. Lol of course I do think this girl over reacted to the situation.

someone besides your partner

He never said he didn't have a password. His roommate could of learnt it.

Men watch women watching ****! I like hiding in trees when I do that. I finish on their window and run away giggling like a little girl. They never know! It's fail proof! They usually think a bird just shit on their window. Woohoo for creepy dudes in trees watching women watching ****!

Woohoo for dudes whacking off to reading about creepy dudes in trees watching women watching ****! *splat* ...What the hell just hit my window?

125 I read your username as "sterile" at first. it seems to fit with this convo about window splats...

#46,#125 you guys are awesome. I laughed at that more than any FML's I can think of

It's one thing if both parties understand and are okay with it. Then there's a mutual acceptance. But if watching **** or anything really hurts your significant other then I believe that it's something that is not correct to do. If you love someone, you want to make them happy, not hurt them.

There are tons of reasons. Insecurity, religion, moral objections, general discomfort etc. Never mind things like **** addiction and the like. And some people just plain dislike it.

And if your significant other was uncomfortable with you drinking water would you say that's reasonable? Or perhaps say that they don't get to decide that for you?

#66 it's just a sexual boundary. If you can't respect a partners sexual boundaries then find a new one or work out a compromise. Water is essential to live, **** is not.

Exactly!!! It is completely about sexual boundaries. Some people are okay with it and that's awesome, great! But if your girlfriend/boyfriend is not okay with then I think there's some reasoning behind it. I for one personally view it as fantasizing about sleeping with someone else. You're not actually cheating, but you're imagining it to get yourself off. Again, my personal view and people have others.

If I told my wife to stop reading her romance novels I would be a monster. That's not an opinion...it's a fact that that would make me a terrible person. You can't convince me that it would be ok.

You're going to get a lot of down votes for being a "prude" and "uptight", but I'm somewhat of the same mind. It's literally just a boundary that should be set early in the relationship, but apparently people aren't okay with others sexual boundaries if it clashes with their own view, even if it doesn't affect them.

I've read the whole controversy on women reading romance novels too. And while I get it is in a way a type of **** it differs in that it's not real people that they're watching in there heads. I don't read them either and I guess it depends on the woman, but I'm sure it's easier to visualize your husband as the person in the moment. If you're watching it with live people it's hard to sub them in, let alone you wanting to sub them in. But I still think if it makes you unhappy then you have a right to let your wife know. It doesn't make you a monster.

Yeah I know I'm a minority on this subject. But I have no problem with people watching ****. They can watch it all the time if it doesn't affect me :p I just think people should be more understanding on why some people DON'T want their significant other to watch ****. It's something two people should agree upon.

My wife's stories are based on a TV shows so I KNOW she's imagining the specific actor. Nothing wrong with that. What if you told your boyfriend he wasn't allowed to have female friends? I'd call that abusive. Would you call it your right and say it's none of my business? No ****, no romance novels, no friends ... I see all 3 of those things as exactly the same thing: Abusive controlling behavior.

My bf told me that my reading of erotica made him uncomfortable. I stopped because it was worth the compromise. It doesn't make him a monster and you wouldn't be either. I think forcing your partner to stop or manipulating them into stopping is abuse, however if you're just asking, you're leaving the decision in their hands. Saying "you can't do this or I'll do X" is different than saying "will you consider not doing this anymore" are two different things.

Haha yeah abusive behavior regarding the friends for sure! If your wife is okay with you watching **** then I don't see why you're getting upset! I'm saying that's totally okay. I believe you can be friends with whoever you want. But if your boyfriend doesn't understand why him watching **** makes you unhappy and refuses to even try to understand then I don't see that as a healthy relationship. If people were meant to sleep around then feelings wouldn't exist the way they do nor would STD's.

Yeah and I don't agree on the forcing either. If be needs **** to be happy and it makes you unhappy then you have the right to leave the relationship. I don't believe in ultimatums or forceful behaviour.

If you are a vegetarian you get 2 choices: 1: Be ok with being around meat eaters 2: Find and hang out only with other vegetarians That's it. You do NOT get #3: Demand that your friend have to all switch to vegetarianism to make you happy. Make sense? Anyone disagree? Now, swap out '**** watcher' for 'vegetarian.' Same concept. I can't believe that people think option 3 is ok.

Why are you saying demanding? No one should really be demanding anything of their partner. Asking them "hey wanna try out being a vegetarian with me" is a far cry from "if you don't switch to vegetarianism then we can't be friends anymore". Also don't think vegetarianism can be accurately compared with something involving sexual intimacy in a relationship.

All you are doing is showing that you're closed minded to the idea that people have different opinions on ****. In fact it's more like you're demanding that everyone accept **** as there's nothing wrong with it. And for you that's true. But some people have other opinions and that and that's allowed. God forbid someone actually care about what their partner wants and does it for them. By their own choice. I never said you should force someone into it.

No, I'm saying that he **** watchers should match up with each other and the non-**** watchers should match up. EITHER side trying to change the other side is wrong. I'm opposed to the forced, controlling, changing. Not to any particular side. And I submit that slapping someone in the face and storming out is not nicely "asking."

I think both of you have a point, but I would also like to point out that watching **** does not necessarily mean you're imagining having sex with the person. Guys going to strip clubs aren't imagining having sex with the woman, they're just enjoying the sexiness. So I would disagree with your point about fantasy cheating.

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