By TaraBURGER - 17/09/2013 07:57 - United States
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My parents still think that I'm trying to replace them. I don't think they understand that this woman is only technically my mother. She isn't my mommy and never could be. I also found out I have a little sister, which is kinda cool. I haven't even told them about her. I'd get booted out of the family tree. I tried to talk to my parents about it, but they just shut me down every time and pulled the whole, "Are we not good enough for you?" bullshit on me. I went on Facebook and found her right away. She's a very nice lady, but I still just call her by her first name. Like I said, she isn't my momma. Also, I saw something on here about the real mom vs. biological mom debate. Personally, I think saying "real mom" is a bit weird. My real mom is the one that changed my diapers, read to me at night, and comforted me when I came home from school crying. I think biological mom is less offensive to adoptive mothers. I have and will never use the term "real mom" to describe my biological mother.
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No harm in wanting to meet her, OP!
I've never understood why adopted kids want to meet the parent(s) that gave them up. Not trying to be rude, just stating my views.
It's just nice to know where you come from. People want to know who they look like, medical history, why they were given up. They have questions. They could have siblings. Like imagine the family you have now and imagine you didn't know them and had been given up for adoption. Would you want to meet them? And some people don't want anything to do with them, just to learn their medical history and that kind of stuff. It's just a curiosity thing I think, for the most part, and it may be stronger or weaker than that for some.
Classy way of referring to your birth
Im so sorry your adoptive parents are so insecure that they are hurting you by being selfish. You have the right to know your biological mother and your family should be supportive not jealous
Ur 21... It's not like u are just gonna abandon your family like that
Your family are the bitches.
I just recently met my "natural father" but my dad doesnt know ive met him, an i call hom by his first name as well. So i know how it is.
yeah, sounds like sommme family..
It's natural to want to meet her, don't listen to them.
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Just ignore it, OP. They'll stop being touchy when they see that you can love them AND at least know your birth mother.
good for you. you should have that right. screw what everyone else thinks