By mukduk - 16/03/2015 12:26 - United States - Chattanooga
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Hello all, OP here. Just clearing things up. Seems I'm getting a lot of conflicting opinions. Some say "FYL, he's abusive, run away!" while others say "YDI because you should've known him better". Others seem to be in between. Well this might clear things up. My boyfriend is a total neat freak. No, he does not have OCD, he just hates messy things. He also just bought a bunch of new, shiny, modern, don't-defile-it-with-your-filthy-hands furniture recently, so he's being extra annoying about it. I, myself, am not as clean as him. I classify myself as someone who only cleans when it's needed. He cleans every. Single. Time. Before moving in, he said "when you get here, we'll have to discuss some rules" which I agreed to. I had a few rules in mind such as "put down the toilet seat" or "replace the toilet paper when it runs out" (now that I think about it, it was more bathroom rules than anything). When I got there, I thought we'd sit down and talk about it. Apparently that's not what he meant by "discuss". So no, I was not expecting the paper, but considering his cleaning habits, I probably should have. Here's an example of the rules he had: "1) NEVER eat in bed. Seriously. 2) Female products are to be thrown in a trash receptacle outside. 3) Wash the dishes before placing them in the dish washer." Yes, these do seem kind of ridiculous. Which is why I asked if it was just a joke. There were a lot of other rules as well, I think a total of 50 something? After reading them all, I had to sit him down and make a few compromises. The rules are a lot less strict now and I threw a few in there myself. He's actually a great guy, just loves to clean. I guess that's an upside right? Anyways, thanks to those supporting me. And thanks for reading this little novel I wrote. -mukduk (sorry my username has nothing to do with my FML, but it's a reference from the Office, so I think that'll suffice)
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It sounds to me like you moved into his house/apartment and he still sees it that way: as his place rather than both of yours. You should definitely have a discussion about this. I agree that there needs to be rules for your cohabitation, but they should be agreed on by both of you, not shoved upon you. Talk about this soon, before it becomes a larger issue.
Dear God. You're dating Sheldon cooper.
"Roommate agreement"
Is your boyfriend Sheldon Cooper!
Barney Stinson, is that you?
Is your boyfriend Barney Stinson?
Lets hope he follows his rules too. No leaving piss stains on the toilet seat yay.
Is your name Amy Farrah Fowler?
Hello all, OP here. Just clearing things up. Seems I'm getting a lot of conflicting opinions. Some say "FYL, he's abusive, run away!" while others say "YDI because you should've known him better". Others seem to be in between. Well this might clear things up. My boyfriend is a total neat freak. No, he does not have OCD, he just hates messy things. He also just bought a bunch of new, shiny, modern, don't-defile-it-with-your-filthy-hands furniture recently, so he's being extra annoying about it. I, myself, am not as clean as him. I classify myself as someone who only cleans when it's needed. He cleans every. Single. Time. Before moving in, he said "when you get here, we'll have to discuss some rules" which I agreed to. I had a few rules in mind such as "put down the toilet seat" or "replace the toilet paper when it runs out" (now that I think about it, it was more bathroom rules than anything). When I got there, I thought we'd sit down and talk about it. Apparently that's not what he meant by "discuss". So no, I was not expecting the paper, but considering his cleaning habits, I probably should have. Here's an example of the rules he had: "1) NEVER eat in bed. Seriously. 2) Female products are to be thrown in a trash receptacle outside. 3) Wash the dishes before placing them in the dish washer." Yes, these do seem kind of ridiculous. Which is why I asked if it was just a joke. There were a lot of other rules as well, I think a total of 50 something? After reading them all, I had to sit him down and make a few compromises. The rules are a lot less strict now and I threw a few in there myself. He's actually a great guy, just loves to clean. I guess that's an upside right? Anyways, thanks to those supporting me. And thanks for reading this little novel I wrote. -mukduk (sorry my username has nothing to do with my FML, but it's a reference from the Office, so I think that'll suffice)
Rule #2 sounds so ridiculous. That would piss me off
I too reacted to #2. What the actual ****? That's why you have a tiny trash can in the bathroom. Get a trash can with a lid and it won't smell either, as long as you change the bad after you're done bleeding. Periods aren't pleasant, but they're not contagious. Period blood isn't even "filthy" in the same manner as other bodily fluids, because it's not the body getting rid of waste, just renewing the uterine lining.
You may want to inform him that #3 on the list is saying that the dishwasher is not worth the money it costs to run. You shouldn't have to pre-wash with any modern dishwasher, especially not a fancy one. Now, rinsing if there is something that has a strong smell or such is fine, but if you have to wash the dishes before the machine does it then you're just wasting resources.
1 & 3 are so rules I would have. I hate the thought of people eating in bed, crumbs in bed are gross and somehow they do fall. I also hate when people walk around eating (like a cookie) without a plate. Do they really think that there are no crumbs falling anywhere? My parents are huge neat freaks and it actually is kind of nice. On the plus side, he'll always be cleaning which is more than a lot of wives can say about their husbands!
Some dishwashers aren't strong enough to get off all the stains. I'm assuming the rule was rinse the plate, not clean it entirely.
Why would you wash the dishes before putting them in the dishwasher? Isn't that what it's supposed to do? Wash the dishes ?
Yeah, I asked him the same question. He just told me that the dishwasher gets the dishes "extra clean". So now I need to wash them and then put them in the dishwasher "just in case you missed something". He honestly is a great guy, just a huge pain in the ass who doesn't know anything about what a woman needs to live comfortably in his house. Don't worry, I'm teaching him. Slowly but surely.
I disagree. R is a very powerful letter ?
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Lots of couples have rules like this. At least he wants to have a clean house, unlike lots of other men
Pro: he's not a slob Con: he's sounds overbearing