Your sons life has no meaning! He's almost 40, now that's pathetic. Move his video game system outside, he'll follow then lock the door! Problem solved.

So, did the son have a job and just moved back recently, or is he such a loser that hes been in the basement this whole time? If the first, start charging him reny and utilities. Back off on the gf though--he is obviously too undatable at the moment. If the latter, tell him it is time to move.

I'm guessing that he is bigger than you and a bit of an alpha dog in the house. Only a meek mother would not have thrown him out already. He has no fear of you nor respect for you. Trying to throw him out (as others have suggested) might end up in violence against you. Parasites wont willingly dislodge without damage to the host. If he were (by some freak chance) to find a bimbo with low standards and her own place who finds unemployed video game addicts who still live with their mom at age 38 the least bit attractive then he might be compelled to detach his parasitic fangs from your neck and latch on to hers. That way he could mooch AND get laid. It wont last. He'll be back... and angry. Needless to say, it is VERY likely that you let him live there all this time because you are getting something out of it, whether you acknowledge it or not. You probably need company and fear solitude. I'll bet his father was an abusive drunk. That's where he learned to disrespect you and become a gaming addict. But the precedent has been set. Since you are not strong enough to shame, persuade or force him to leave, then YOU will have to leave. Dont move in with another man. You attract parasitic men like flies and could very easily end up in a physically abusive situation. You shouldn't be dating at all. Hunt for another home in another town with one bedroom just for you. Pay to break your lease or sell at a low price. Then one day, pack up all of your stuff and leave. Dont tell him where or when. Just do it. If he finds you dont let him in, ever. Call the cops if necessary. If that is too emotionally difficult then find a women's shelter that you can stay in. You ARE a victim of domestic violence whether you know it or not. He holds you hostage with dominance and fear. A shelter will give you protection and a way out. You are not doing him (or you) any favors by letting him bleed you dry. Your obligation to him as a mother is done. Now you need to attend to yourself... without him. Dont feel bad about it. You have already given him too much. He needs to sink or swim. Most likely he will find said bimbo with low standards on his own. Better her than you.

This sounds like a scene out of the movie Step Brothers ;)

Kick him out and help him get a life. Your son is a complete loser and if he doesn't start making a change, he's going to continue leading his pathetic gamer life.

why haven't you kicked him out before?

he has gamer aids. give him a chance

Kick him OUT.

..... JESUS.....DO.....SOMTHING !

Wow that is a true NEET.