By CrazyInLove - 10/03/2015 06:02 - United States - Castle Rock

Today, I overcame my lack of social confidence and got a date for the first time in 10 or so years. After a while, my date admitted that she's a schizophrenic with dissociative identity disorder. I guess it's back to being single. FML
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From someone who has extreme panic attack disorder, OCD and crippling depression, this intensifies my worry that I'll be alone forever. I feel sorry for her, to be honest. That was probably really hard for her to do.

Because obviously we should immediately discount the possibility of dating anyone with a mental illness, right? Or should she have just lied to you about it for a while first? It was probably incredibly difficult for her to be upfront about having such a stigmatized medical condition. If you choose not to get involved thats your prerogative, but I hope you handled it tactfully at least. If you think it's hard for you to get a date, imagine how she must feel.

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crackyeggy 9

What the hell? You're so shallow. Have fun being alone, OP.

CaroAurelia 12

Okay, just no. Please don't treat this girl like a bad person or a freak because her brain is wired wrong. Mentally ill people need love and support, too. Some of the most wonderful people I've ever met had mental illnesses. (None with schizophrenia or DID, although my grandmama was wrongly diagnosed with schizophrenia.) Believe it or not, they're all normal people, just with diseases that affect the way their brains work. And her illnesses may be a pain in the ass for YOU if you stay, but I'm almost certain that they suck more for her. I hope this girl finds someone who will give her the love and support she needs, and if you're not going to grow a pair and do it, then hopefully somebody else will. Oh, and by the way, she may have her symptoms under pretty good control. She could be going to therapy and taking meds, in which case she'd probably be relatively easy to live with.

CaroAurelia 12

#54, being unable to handle such things is one thing (although, for all we know, she could be in treatment that is working, which would make her easier to live with). But **** OP's life because they (never said it was a man) went on one date with her? She's the one who lives with schizophrenia and DID every damn day. She doesn't have the option of just not calling her diseases back. She can go to therapy and take meds and those things can help, but as far as I know the technology doesn't exist to change her brain chemistry for good.

I think maybe it's their attitude? It's one thing to say 'I don't think I can support someone with a mental illness effectively' but the post read more 'this woman is broken! Send me another one!'

So were you on a date with the personality you asked out?

Senrab 15

Don't judge a book by the cover!

I think it's not your lack of social skills that put you in that positition, but your overall asshole attitude.

Aw, its okay. Find a new girl or try to work with what you have, which is her