It really isn't a cheap shot if they are using sarcasm. More of a joke then.

Still a cheap shot. Sarcasm towards the mil costs you nothing, but can make your spouses life hell.

130: I'm guessing if they had a joking kind of relationship she would not have flipped out that badly.

No, being an ass makes him an ass.

That's not really being humorous, it's being an ass.

he's entitled to his own opinion

What happened to "if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all?" Even if the paint job was bad, that is just OP's opinion. Clearly the MIL was happy with it so if she didn't ask for opinions then OP shouldn't have been a jerk about it.

#94 You put yourself out there, expect to be judged. Those are the rules of the internet.

sarcasm never goes over well online.

Do people just not read that part.

I don't think anyone follows that anymore lol

Why shouldn't people voice their opinions?

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but it doesn't mean they are entitled to say it. If someone is (in your opinion) is bad at what they do, be it art writing or anything, there is going to be someone else that thinks they're good at what they do. By being rude and sarcastic to someone who is proud of what they did, regardless if they did a good job or not, serves no other purpose than to hurt and criticize what the person did.

Condescension is the highest form of douchery.

It's actually been proven to be a sign of intelligence.

Certainly. My dog is incapable of sarcasm, it proves intelligence beyond the average canine. But defending sarcasm as a sign of your intelligence will not be earning you a Mensa invitation.

Truer words have never been spoken 21

He wasn't being that rude. It was just a sarcastic joke that got misinterpreted as serious, probably due to op not mentioning his sarcasm.

Maybe when/if you get married and get a mother-in-law, you'll learn to do whatever you can to keep the peace between you and her. If you love your wife, you don't go on her mother's Facebook and make snarky comments. That's just rude. Of course the mother-in-law shouldn't have done what she did but he still deserves it for instigating the situation.

#35 - yes, its rude to leave snarky comments to any one on facebook, but the MIL could have deleted it. and she went a bit over the top by dumping paint on the car. i find that a lot more rude than leaving a snarky comment which can be removed easily, so she it isnt like she is making the situation easy for her daughter either.

Perhaps this isn't the first time op has been rude to the inlaws, this may have been the straw that broke the camels back as far as MIL was concerned. We only get one side of the story here...

I'm pretty sure that as an adult, its never ok to throw a tantrum like a ******* toddler. And I am married, by the way.

it doesn't matter if it's your wife's mother, that doesn't entitle her to destruction of property. she should've been an adult and handled it in a mature way considering she is the mother.

Actually I don't think anyone has really defended the MIL so far. People are merely pointing out that what OP said was very rude, and should not have been said. Which is true. However the MAJORITY of the comments (there were a couple of odd comments here and there) I've read also agree that what the MIL did was not ok. Just because people believe what OP said was rude and inappropriate, doesn't mean they by default believe that what the MIL did was justifiable.

Exactly. I wasn't saying the mother-in-law was right in what she did. I was simply pointing out that she probably wouldn't have done what she didn't if OP wasn't an asshole. What's she did was not justified by any means but if OP loves his wife, he'll be the bigger person and try to rectify the situation.

Ask her to help fix it? Really? I would demand that she take complete responsibility for it. A simple "i'm sorry" won't fix a **** up like this.

Considering the MIL escalated it to the point of property damage, it is pretty safe to make her pay/clean the paint