Trust me, I know how it feels Op. I am not antisocial and I do go out, but I don't find anyone decent (it's even harder since I come from a minor ethnic group. I am 24 and would love to be in a relatioship but looks like that's never gonna happen. You are not the only one living a pathetic life. In the mean time, I do what's important to me and what I enjoy - outdoor activities, workout etc. But still there is a BIG void I can't get past..

Perdix, It's not that difficult to get them to come back, either. At least, I don't think it is. I kind of went through a pretty bitchy stage. I'd sleep with a guy, and if it wasn't phenomenal, I'd never call em again. You wouldn't believe how upset or pissy they get :/ Apparently, a lot of guys don't like just being used for sex. It's quite annoying, actually. Tell them you don't want to ever date them, and they try to convince you that you do. I've only really had one "friends with benefits" relationship ever work, and we're still friends to this day. Oh, also, 4 out of my 5 boyfriends started with sex on the first date, so I think Im good on the making them come back, thing, lol.

Make a change!: cut your hair work out different make-up maybe different clothes Be confident!: don't act like you been single for so long be approachable ask your friends to hook you up go and make the first move, girl! hit on some guys maybe hit up a lesbian bar! IDK; try something new, something different b/c whatever you're doing now clearly isn't working

do it!! people are more attracted to people in relationships...fact!!

Idkweird, usually a date means that the guy knew you a little bit before he asked you out. What is your batting average for guys you met at a bar or a party and ****** right away? Mine for girls I met that way isn't good, but most of the time it was no loss.

these are the lamest FMLs. you should go stab yourself in your juggular or just find someone. either way stop complaining.

Hmmm, that's really making me think. I tend to avoid picking someone up at a bar, buuuut there have been a few. I believe 2 out of 3 tried to come back. The 3rd was an English Paratrooper only in town for another week of training. We talked after, but didn't get the chance to meet back up. With my boyfriends, they're all interesting. The only one I didn't sleep with right away was my first bf...we waited like 3 months, I think? 2nd was a friend from high school(a virgin). 3rd was someone I met online, so I guess it technically wasn't a date. We attempted a long distance relationship as he lived in London. 4th was a **** buddy from work that I originally told I wouldn't date, but he wore me down (my ex-fiance). Current is another I met online, and we slept together my first night out visiting. Theeeen he moved across the country to here, lol. Most of the others have either been hook-ups from online or someone I met through a friend. Some internet ones were bad because then they would continuously IM me. Others, I could kind of ignore. I'd just get so annoyed when they'd get all pushy, and as soon as someone does that to me, they lose their chance of getting any more. I def go through phases where I go through men and toss them aside like garbage :/ Not necessarily proud of that, but it's what I do in between relationships. I have a weird ability to seperate sex from emotions. My body still needs the sexual fix until my mind is ready to accept someone as a possible relationship scenario. For some reason, guys do not like that. Idk why since most always talk about how they wish they could have no strings attached sex. I just feel like I have my guy friends for the emotional attachment and the cuddling, so I can have sex without all the emotional BS to screw it up. So it all comes down to, somehow, me not wanting anything to do with them beyond sex somehow makes them come back. Not all for some kind of relationship, but most of them try to come back for more.

ummm...?! that's not wierd at all *coughs*•_•

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ha that must suck!