By sadsadlady - 14/12/2009 20:25 - Canada

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Today, I told my husband that while he was away I had had a miscarriage. His response? "If you can't take care of our baby while it is still inside you, how can I trust you to take care of it when it comes out?" FML
I agree, your life sucks 44 178
You deserved it 3 740

Same thing different taste

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That's effed up I mean, REALLY effed up Damn.

WTF. I hope this isn't true. if it is then you need to leave him. That is one of the cruelest, hurtful insensitive things Ive heard in a long time. My wife and I lost our first child 4 years ago to a miscarriage and I still get upset by it, thankfully we have 2 beautiful children now. leave that loser.

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He may not understand how exactly pregnancy works. I've heard more weird and ****** up things said by people who were actually being serious. They just didn't understand the process.

sl0wsarahm0 16

I am so sorry that you had to go through this. this is not your fault, you had no control over this outcome. Pregnancy is a very complex process in which many things can go wrong even if mother and embryo/fetus/baby are healthy. Certian things have to happen at specific times and if they are interupted there can be catastophic consequences. Things just didn't work out this time. For closure I would suggest going to your ob/gyn and the doctor can tell you what may have gone wrong medically, there may be an underlying cause such as high blood pressure that if treated will save your and your future babies' lives. living with such an asshole for a husband is a very possible cause for your tragedy. stress and depression have wide spread effects on your whole body.  don't loose hope, once you leave this sorry excuse for a human being you will be in such a better place and will probably be able to carry a child to term. you really need to leave him, the way he is putting the blame on you is a classic example of emotional abuse. If this was his idea of a joke, to me it seems worse. If he laughs at your pain, rethink rasing a child with him. I agree with many previous posters that this man needs a swift kick in the nads (or you could step on them). It might be even more effective to tell his mother/family/friends what he said to you, they will be appalled. I mean seriously look how many total strangers are on your side. After you get him out of your life, his mother can still make his life a living hell. Keep on trucking sister, things will work ot for you in the end.

That's disgusting. I'd be leaving him ASAP.

bnutzinger 11

Wow... that really isn't anywhere near an appropriate reaction. Sorry for your loss. But, to everybody here who is giving the OP advice to leave her husband please consider this: It is possible that this lame try at a joke was his way to come to terms with the situation. People react very strange when under strong emotianal stress. Giving someone advice on how to handle their relationship based on a single incident is not a good idea.

asoldierswifey 0

I agree. When something shocks me (in a bad way), I tend to laugh because I know of no other way to deal with it. This comes from years of trauma, though. I agree that it could be that he was actually shocked so bad that this was the only thing he could come up with. If this isn't the case, I agree with everyone else that she needs to drop this little f*cker like there is no tomorrow.

I thought that was hilarious. I'd totally high five that dude, and smack all you over dramatic queens in the face in the process. You all take yourselves way too seriously. I mean, come on. It's the internet and that shit was funny.

missy2343 0

yo r an asshole for sayin tht shit is funny he jst told his wife some crazy shit like tht after she jst had a miscarriage tht is not funny at all tht she jst had to say her baby died u r a true jack ass and i hope u rot in hell for some shit like

missy2343 0

divrce yo damn husband he is a no good disrespectful asshole tell his whack bitch ass to carry the baby and see wat he has to say about tht u did not deserve tht do not listen to his bunk ass

crazymunkees 2

Hey, everyone don't assume the guy is an asshole. By this post it sounds to me that the op's husband is not aware of what a miscarriage is. "When it comes out"? It sounds to me that if the guy knew what it was, he wouldn't have said "when it comes out". Still a rude thing to say, yes, but I'm not convinced he would have said that if he knew what a miscarriage was.

crazymunkees 2

Hey, everyone don't assume the guy is an asshole. By this post it sounds to me that the op's husband is not aware of what a miscarriage is. "When it comes out"? It sounds to me that if the guy knew what it was, he wouldn't have said "when it comes out". Still a rude thing to say, yes, but I'm not convinced he would have said that if he knew what a miscarriage was.

How stupid could he be? I wouldnt give him that benefit of a doubt. I knew about miscarriages when I was 15/16. How old is this guy? 12? Its more likely hes just angry and looking for someone to blame. A lot of people are like that whennsomething shocks them like that, they say stupid things. I wouldnt dump him. Hed just be in the doghouse for a long while.