Women like this give the rest of us a bad name. A wife who is well and able to please her husband sexually but refuses to do so is a failure of a wife. Of course she need not indulge a fetish if it makes her uncomfortable, nor should she have to drop what she is doing to have sex with him on his every whim. But, if she refuses his every desire and cuts him off totally, she is failing as a wife -- period. Why marry someone if you won't have sex with them? I hope that OP's wife can work through whatever her issues are.

hmm... well... good luck with that.

#38 Sex is NOT the most important thing. Some couples actually chose NOT to have sex. Its not as though you suddenly spontaneously combust or implode if you dont take part in it

Sounds like your wife is scared of you're sex. That's not a dream she's having, it's a nightmare. Maybe you should calm down buddy.

Sorry, nomadxx7, I just wanted to say: A) You were doing great 'til you made the lesbian crack. Apart from anything else, more straight chicks use ****** than dykes do - they use them as tools for masturbation, whereas the majority of dykes don't want anything to do with them, simply due to a lot of them being more... shall we say, realistic? :P And B) As far as I'm concerned, straight feminists are much scarier than lesbian ones. Srsly. No joke. The straight girls who jump on the soapbox tend to be much more aggressive, since the dykes at least concede their sexuality has a role in it. The straight ones seem to think rage alone can cover the gap, and I ain't scared of much, but feminazis scare the **** out of me XD *is still regretting missing jandersoniii's posts, though* Other than that, dude, you're awesome. Cheers!

Be glad your name is Brandon.

Am I the only one who sees jandersonii's post as SATIRE, and the ppl deriding her as a feminazi as proving her point? Sigh... Monicamischief, I understand the point you are making. However, most people in the world do not have such polyamorist mindsets, nor are the acts of sex and the emotions of love so clearly separated for most people as they appear to be in your system. Running around preaching it to sexually unhappy couples is not going to help the matter. Flaunting unorthodox "liberated" ideals is no better than flaunting extreme abstinence and celibacy--it's just giving yourself a pat on the back while other people, rightfully, roll their eyes at you.

Pretty much the definition of marriage- putting up with each other's crap WITHOUT the sex. Shoulda held out...

Unlucky, mate. But i'm glad YOU are Brandon, and not your wife's more-significant-other.... the your L would be truly F'ed.

Get a divorce or get good at bringing back the love flame. You're choice.